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Kirstenmumof3 |
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![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I keep trying to think of all the sweet things he does! Spencer adores Claudia ![]() ![]() ![]() So here is my plan for this morning. I'm going to talk to our CAS worker, and our family support worker and I'm going to phone our Family Doctor and just find out about the referal he was making to the head pediatrician in our community. I also planned to talk to his teacher today and just fill her in on what has happened. Thanks for letting me get this all out! -------------------- ![]() |
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Gosh...I don't know. I have a friend who is a mom of 5 and her 6 yr old son sounds a lot like Spencer. He and his brother beat the tar out of each other sometimes. I am NOT kidding. And they are destructive/disrespectful of other's possessions. My friend came over with 4 of her 5 and her two boys (both 4 and 6) tied knots in one of Nathan's toys. I know it was her 6 yr old. It's almost vindictive behavior. Kids can be cruel, but the fact that he has no respect for the toys in our home (they have broken some of Nathan's toys and Nathan is not a boy (nor is Gabe)) that destroys their things. I would never tolerate that. I purposely did not invite my friends and her kids (I knew they'd be out of town but no invitation was sent to them) to Gabe's bday b/c they literally stand on top of the kids when they are opening gifts and they are just unreal. Whenever they visit they tend to not want to play with my kids. They are in their own world. If their 4 yr old is over then he and Nathan are like peas in a pod for several hours before they tire of one another. I won't be tolerating ANY of this when the twins come! No way!
I think that a talk with the CAS worker would help you get things out and figure out if there is a problem. Maybe he is going through a stage and a lot of it is in his head and he has no outlet to talk things out? My nephew, who is 10, has recently become more angry because his Dad (divorced from my sister) is a real a*&. I told my sister that she should put him back in counseling so that he can work through his thoughts and feelings with a neutral party. HUGS -------------------- |
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Posted: May 21 2004, 04:49 AM
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Oh Kirsten, that is really a tough one! I'm glad you are addressing the problem early, though, because it does sound like he is acting out for a reason. I really hope you can get to the root of all of this before Spencer gets himself into trouble.
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Posted: May 21 2004, 05:33 AM
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((HUGS)) Kirsten. It sounds like you have a good plan to try to get to the bottom of this. Hopefully you can figure out what is going on with him.
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Posted: May 21 2004, 08:56 AM
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Sounds like a bit of a problem, I hope that you'll be able to work through it soon, and find the support you need. Best wishes
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Posted: May 21 2004, 09:04 AM
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Here's some more hugs
![]() I think it is great that you are involving all the people and professionals in Spencer's life. Hopefully, you will be able to figure out what is at the root of the problem. It sounds like Spencer can be very sweet and loving... but there must be a reason he is acting out. Let us know how it goes! -------------------- |
Kirstenmumof3 |
Posted: May 21 2004, 11:31 AM
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Thanks everyone. I've talked to all of the supports and they have all told me to just keep doing what we are doing. I do not know how long it is going to be before he sees the pediatrician.
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kimberley |
Posted: May 21 2004, 03:07 PM
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(((hugs))) Kirsten. i am sorry to hear he is giving you trouble again
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A&A'smommy |
Posted: May 21 2004, 03:53 PM
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(((BIG HUGS))) I wish I could say something to make you feel better!
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Kirstenmumof3 |
Posted: May 21 2004, 03:55 PM
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You are all so wonderful! Thank You! I forgot to tell you that I did talk to Spencer about this and he says he put her in the drawer because the kitten scratched him and that he forgot about her.
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loveydad |
Posted: Aug 1 2004, 02:08 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that. Iknow kinda what you're going through.
A year ago, Vince and Kel were 4 years. Sometimse I couldn't even stand to be around them. They threw fits. They yelled. They went into the babies room and woke her up. They hit. They bit. They took freshly folded BRAND NEW CLOTHES and threw them out the window! They ruined their stuff. They took stuff out of the fridge and let it rot in their room. Kel was showing signs of childhood depression. With so many kids in the house, he was feeling left out. Then I found out that Vincent was being mean to him all the time. After Vincent ruined his room, we made him sleep in an empty room wtih just a sleeping bag (not the one he liked, either) and he learned his lesson. I took them to a counsler and after a while they started feeling better and calming down. My oldest son, Henry, found ways to spend more time with Kel, and I did too. I think part of it was just growing out of it. I know this doesn't help, just wanted you to know that you're not alone. |
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Posted: Aug 1 2004, 07:17 PM
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I dont know how old Spencer is but I do know they go thru lil phases and who knows why he did this... if it was a one time thing I dont think its a big deal.
My dd almost 9 loves her baby sister, more then she loves me! lol but I know at times she feels left out and she acts out about it at the strangest times. Its great that your so concerned and dealing with it and trying to get him to talk about it. I just wanted to offer support! ![]() -------------------- Shannon mommy to
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Mistydiane |
Posted: Aug 2 2004, 08:56 AM
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((HUGS))
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