What do you think?

When I was pregnant with our angel, Mom bought our baby some pajamas, bibs and blankets. Ironically enough, I even found a baby hat that matches one I have that someone else gave me. It's a summer hat for a baby. Anyhow, after we lost our baby, I told Mom I was going to give the baby clothes to someone who could really use them. I was so hurt and filled with grief when I said that but Mom & Theron insisted I keep the baby clothes and suggested that I even add on to it for our next baby. I feel somewhat guilty for using those baby clothes for our next baby. What do you think?

This post has been edited by Halo42101 on Jun 1 2006, 01:20 PM

IMO I do not see anything wrong with using the pajamas, bibs and blankets.

I don't think it's wrong at all

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I know what you are talkign about. I never used Jordans on jenna... but what im going to do( i was about a year ago but never did) and hopefully soon... is take an out fit of his that he wore alot and put it in a shadow box along with booties and a small keepsake i got at the hospital.

What you can do is buy a shadow box and put the outfit in it plus anything else that you have of his... and tyhen maby hang it in your next baby's room... i am goign to do that and out it in jennas room! She will have a part of her big brother with her.

In my opinion, you should go ahead and use the things you have. Think of it as your first angel passing it onto your new angel.

If that was me I wouldn't. I would feel uncomfortable about it. But everyone is different, and if you decide to use them, than theres nothing wrong with that. you have to feel comfortable about your decision.

I think it is up to you.

After we lost our baby, I spoke to a friend of mine who had lost a baby a few years earlier. She said that she went ahead and used the crib, nursery, and all the other baby clothes for her next child. She still considered her angel her child and passed down the hand-me-downs to his brother. It made sense when she explained it, but I still couldnt bring myself to use any of the things we had for Joshua when Ashley was born. His things are put aways in a special chest.

I don't think there is one right or wrong answer, you should do what makes sense for you.

Thanks for all your opinnions and thoughts. They really mean a lot to me. Shelly, I think it's a very sweet idea to put the clothes in a shadow box for a special keepsake. And putting the clothes in a special chest sounds like a good idea too, Dee Dee. I am not sure what I will do about it when I find out I am pregnant again. I do know that God spared me of the pain of never being able to have children because I still have my right ovary. It was awful because before I went into surgery, they asked me to sign a permission form that if the infection was bad enough and they needed to do a whole hysterectomy, they could do it. I reluctantly signed the form. I knew I had to for the good of my own health and my well-being. I am so thankful that they were able to save my other ovary. God is good! I know we will have a baby to hold and love on earth one day. And just this week, I was reminded by my Pastor to walk by faith, not by sight. Praise God!

I had tons of stuff with Elijah. Tons of clothes (new and hand-me-down), furniture, toys, etc. I kept everything, even his diapers I got at my baby shower. As far as his clothes I keep them in our office in the closet. They're not hung up of course, but kept it a plastic zip bag to keep them safe but so I can look at them all of the time. But with his toys I am gradually giving them to Kaitlyn as she gets old enough to use them and before she came along I wasn't sure how I felt about that but now it makes me feel good for some reason. Its like when I see her playing with one of them I smile and remember him. She uses his walker and his changing table. When your baby died did the hospital give you a stuffed animal? They gave me a teddy bear and I love it. After I got home my mom put Elijah's hat (the one they gave him at the hospital) on the teddy bear and that bear slept in the same bed with me for a long time. Now he sits in my living room and I am keeping up the tradition. When Kaitlyn was born I gave her a teddy-bear that her daddy gave to me when we first got together. I put her hospital hat on it and now both of my bears sit side by side 24/7. It lil stuff like that that make my heart feel a lil bit better.

i don't see the problem, baby clothes get reused over and over that is how it works

How about if you took the stuff that was for your angel, and made a quilt or blanket from pieces of it, and gave that to the next baby as a gift? Or just put it away some where.....