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bawoodsmall	Posted: Oct 9 2008, 08:33 AM
Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 1,201 Member No.: 13,464 Joined: 8-August 07	I dont know if i can actually write this but here goes. I found out that dh has been having an emotional affair with a woman who lives like walking distance from us. It killed me when I found out and I am still trying to deal. I have my good days and bad. This was like a week ago when it blew up but i knew something was up for a month or so I just didnt have proof. He never did the deed but it still hurts a lot. I have started on antidepressant medicine and am seeing a counselor. He tells her things that he says he cant talk to me about because he is afraid of hurting my feelings. Oh...this didnt hurt my feelings. Idiot. I want our marriage to work and need any advice you all have. It is very important that all of you know that we both are dedicated to working on our marriage so if you want to tell me to leave him please dont post. The internet is gone because that was one form of talking to her. I check his phone by checking the bill.... He is trying but he doesnt really want to talk aboiut it anymore. He says I know everything but I am not sure. I am just really hurt. Oh and I quit my job in the office and am waiting tables. My life is not the greatest right now. Sorry it got long. Oh and what is up with tamara and the babies? -------------------- [/IMG]

lisar	Posted: Oct 9 2008, 08:48 AM
Yes it is I.... Group: Members Posts: 11,727 Member No.: 1,760 Joined: 20-April 05	Seems how you really wanna work thru this, Have you thought about going to marriage counseling? I am sure it would help. I am so sorry you are going thru this. Your a stronger woman than me.

A&A'smommy	Posted: Oct 9 2008, 09:52 AM
Praying For Spencer Group: Moderators Posts: 29,769 Member No.: 243 Joined: 11-August 03	You are a VERY strong and brave woman. Definitly seek CHRISTIAN marriage counseling because they will TRULY help you work on your marriage and not just tell you that its a loss after a little while and tell you to move on a christian marriage counselor will help for as long as it take and will never give up on you guys. I hope things get better for you sweetheart and I'm SOO sorry you are going through this, and whenever you think you can't remember that you CAN do this!! --------------------

PrairieMom	Posted: Oct 9 2008, 10:23 AM
Ruby Member Group: Members Posts: 12,652 Member No.: 2,561 Joined: 24-September 05	I am so sorry to hear about all that. Hang in there. Here is a link to what is going on with Tamara. http://forums.parentingclub.com/index.php?...77592&hl=tamara

MoonMama	Posted: Oct 12 2008, 08:19 PM
Platinum Member Group: Members Posts: 6,537 Member No.: 4,927 Joined: 27-August 06	Oh honey, I am so sorry! I'm here if you ever need to talk.

My3LilMonkeys	Posted: Oct 13 2008, 02:55 AM
Platinum Member Group: Members Posts: 7,628 Member No.: 2,419 Joined: 28-August 05

Maddie&EthansMom	Posted: Oct 13 2008, 05:49 AM
Diamond Member Group: Moderators Posts: 16,534 Member No.: 235 Joined: 30-July 03	I know you are in counseling, but I suggest HE go to counseling, too. You guys should go separately at first and after some time you need to go together. He really needs to work on his issues. I'm so sorry this happened. I wish he would continue talking to you. I know you are hurt, but the pain lessens in time. You will get through this. PM me if you need to.

MommyToAshley	Posted: Oct 13 2008, 05:49 AM
Happy Spring! Group: Administrators Posts: 27,473 Member No.: 2 Joined: 8-February 03	I'm sorry. I think the first step is for him to cut all ties with her, and it sounds like he has. It sounds like you both are willing to work on it. I would definitely recommend marriage counseling. -------------------- Dee Dee , Mommy to: Ashley Marie 9/05/02 Joshua Lee 2/03/00 (Our Angel in Heaven)

mysweetpeasWil&Wes	Posted: Oct 13 2008, 08:26 PM
Platinum Member Group: Members Posts: 8,735 Member No.: 1,474 Joined: 1-March 05	Sorry to be late on this...But I just read your post for the first time. I'm so sorry sweetie. My heart goes out to you, both of you really. Marriage counseling is really my only suggestion. This way you can talk out your feelings together. -------------------- Rae SAHM to Wil (4) and Wesley (2) ~ Wife to Richard 10/20/01

bawoodsmall	Posted: Oct 16 2008, 10:35 AM
Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 1,201 Member No.: 13,464 Joined: 8-August 07	CRAP I AM CRYING IN THE LIBRARY. i MUST LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR POSTS. I KNOW SOME OF YOU THINK I AM AN IDIOT FOR STAYING WITH HIM BUT PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES. NOONE IS PERFECT AND AS LONG AS WE LEARN FROM THEM WE CAN GET THROUGH IT. HE WONT GO TO COUNSELING AT THIS TIME. HE SEEMS TO THINK WE CAN WORK IT OUT TOGETHER. I AM HOPING THAT AFTER THINGS SETTLE DOWN I CAN CONVINCE HIM OTHERWISE. HE IS THE TYPE OF PERSON YOU CANT PUSH THOUGH. IT WILL MAKE HIM GO INWARD. KEEP ME IN YOUR THOUGHTS PLEASE. i WILL KEEEP ANYONE POSTED WHO CARES. -------------------- [/IMG]

Sam & Abby's Mom	Posted: Oct 16 2008, 11:41 AM
Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 1,747 Member No.: 11,125 Joined: 6-May 07	I'm so sorry! I'm glad you are going to counseling even if he wont go. Hopefully, he'll change his mind. I feel you should be calling the shots about this because he is the one who screwed up,, KWIM ? Hang in there and keep the Faith!! -------------------- Peggy Wife to Tim (Oct 1996) Mom to Sammy (Nov 2004), Abby (Jun 2006)

gr33n3y3z	Posted: Oct 17 2008, 03:29 AM
Doin Good :~ Group: Moderators Posts: 15,274 Member No.: 822 Joined: 13-October 04	Wow just saw this I hope everything works out for you and keep strong -------------------- Wife to Ed (Redchief) Mom to Rick,John,Erin and Kaitlin "Believe 100% in what you see believe 50% of what read and none of what you hear"

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