Freedom?

[wcs40110]

I went though reading some old posts wondering if they had any good information for me. I noticed someone said that they think they'd feel more free if they were seperate. I'm just wondering how everyone else has it set up and how that works out for them. I always say where I'm going, how long, who I'm going to be with. I don't really have to ask but I do. My mom says eveyone knows darn well I'm going to do as I want. lol. He does the same. Never told him to, he just does.

I never had a problem with this until recently. Eveywhere I go, he goes. I would like to go do as I please. Go to a party without him, talk to my friends without him sitting next to me staring at me. (Hes shy so he doesnt really talk) I decided this is a really big part of my problem. I don't think we can fix this as it's how its been for over 3 years. We never had it any other way. We went from 'dating' to living together in a matter of 2 months.

I also don't know how I feel about being 22 and 'susposed to spend the rest of my life with him' I know theres a lot of young happy couples with and without kids but I just dont know about it in my situation. I happen to think if we're meant to be together we're going to end up back together in the long run even if we do break up.

[luvmykids]

It sounds to me like you need a break, longer than a night out, to figure out how you really feel about this guy. Some people separate for a set period of time, some do it until they feel they've figured things out. Whatever the case, maybe in the mean time you can just tell him, honestly but nicely, that you love him (if you do) but enjoy some time without him and encourage him to find something he likes to do without you.

[Hillbilly Housewife]

What helped me and my dh is we each have our seperate outings to go to. Since we do have kids, rather than pay a sitter, we choose to decide who goes to what event, and the other stays home with the kids.

That way we both get our alone time, and our time with our friends. Most of our friends are mutual...and the ones who aren't, are mine anyways.