Are you in a loveless marriage?

Something at church today made DH and I start wondering how many people stay in their marriage but really don't love each other. No one has to reply of course, but if you want to then you're free too.

Plenty of love, just wish we had more passion for each other....not sexual, just in general

ditto. I think it's more of a loss of energy with the little ones around, which leads to loss of passion. As long as you are committed to keeping it together, I'm confident that anything can be overcome.

We really go back and forth, but we really keep giving it to eachother. Right now I can honestly say that our marriage is not "loveless"

completely loveless, we have been seperated for a year and a half. Have been planning to post and get some advice if i can ever get the energy to put it into words. Things have been really bad lately.

I voted No, I am not.

We have a really good marriage...We have sexual ups and downs, but overall a happy marriage. We are really good friends too, which makes it easier. Honestly..we have been married 5 years and have never had a major fight yet...knock on wood.

That's us exactly.

There's love (more like a friendship now), but no passion or intimacy.

Love is there. Not the right kind of love and none of the other stuff like compassion, friendship, respect, etc to go along with it. It's just not enough. I love him b/c he is the father of my children. He's a GREAT dad. Maybe one day he will make a GREAT husband for someone else, but we will be better off apart. I can be a better mom without him. I can be a better Aimee without him. To me, that is the important thing. I need to be the best I can be for my children.

pm if you need anything......

We have ups and downs but never lose the love - sometimes we lose the like KWIM? We are slowly reconnecting on alot of areas lately - at times I have wondered if we would be better off apart but when we have both talked about life without each other it has never seemed like a good alternative on ALL levels therefore we keep plugging along......my biggest fear in marriage has always been what it will be like when the kids are gone....I don't want there to be nothing left when they move out and move on - I would be devestated for my marriage to end then.....

I feel the same way as you sometimes. I've thought about what it might be like to separate, and I'd almost feel FREE. I feel so trapped sometimes.

PM me if you want to talk. You've helped me a lot in the past .

we love each other very much, are best friends and talk about everything. We have just fell flat in the pasion and romance department. We will find it again, and probably lose it again, and find it, lose it........a never ending cycle.

No, I am not.

This past year, it might have seemed more like I thought it was more of a friendship, but I love my husband very much. We just need to weather this past year, and get back on track -- I hope we are.

We love each other, and we have alot of passion. We both put into the marriage. Yes we have our ups and downs but **kncok on wood** we dont have any major problems.

No. I'm absolutely head over heels in love with him.

As cheesy as it sounds.

This post has been edited by Bellasmommy10 on Feb 4 2008, 10:17 AM

Interesting.. I view the poll without voting and then when I came back to vote, it said I had already voted.

Yeah once you view it you can't vote I believe.

no not exactly loveless.. it just seems like there is a lack of respect, communication and friendship.

I love my husband he is a great father and recently we overcame and REALLY REALLY tough patch I didn't think we were going to make it.. and still sometimes I wonder why we got married if we were NEVER going to actually spend time together.. I sometimes feel like his friends are WAY more important that i am along with his job and daughter (which I want her to be important but for a marriage to work your spouse is suppose to come first). Marriage is not easy and I don't really believe in divorce (unless infidelity or abuse is involved) but sometimes I just wonder if life would be better if we weren't together for him and me....

but no we do love each other there is just a lack of other things..

You can always talk to me if you need someone to vent/talk to!!

Aimee, I don't know what's going on, and it's none of my business unless you want to share, but just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you guys and the kids. I'm here, we're all here, if you want to talk.

I voted no.

if you asked me this question a few months ago, i would have said yes. but we reached a turning point a few months ago and it has been good ever since *touch wood* we could use a little more passion too but i agree with the fact that exhaustion has a lot to do with it.

Aimee and Jessy Ann, i always have a sympathetic ear if you need. p&pt

Ditto. Sometimes I would like to stab my dh but I love him with all my heart. I think our problems are coming from me. I am not happy with myself kwim. We are working on it and I know I dont want to be with anyone but him ever.

We are very much in love. We have had out moments when things have gotten very hectic with life in general. We by no means have a perfect marriage but we hav ea unity with one another. There have been times when I have thought about murder but never divorce.