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singlemomsouthjersey |
Posted: Feb 22 2007, 05:57 AM
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My 12-year-old daughter has begun spending time with a boy from school. She recently confided in me that they were "going out", i.e. boyfriend/girlfriend. The boy is african-american, and she is white. I am open to interracial relationships and don't really have a problem with this, but I know her father (whom I am divorced from) and other family members might not approve. Does anyone have any advice as to how I should handle this?
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amynicole21 |
Posted: Feb 22 2007, 06:51 AM
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Being in an inter-racial marriage myself, I've run into this very issue. My mother was always against me dating men outside of my race, and made her views VERY clear to me. I dated whomever I wanted anyway, and it created contempt and tension between my mother and me which is still there to this day. When I told her over the phone that I was engaged to my husband, she didn't make a sound. There was dead silence on the other end.
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lisar |
Posted: Feb 22 2007, 07:25 AM
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luvmykids |
Posted: Feb 22 2007, 08:54 AM
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Ditto to the above, maybe you can prepare him a little before she talks to him about it. If it doesn't go well be ready to explain to her that she isn't doing anything wrong and that if anyone has a problem with it, it's just that, THEIR problem.
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redchief |
Posted: Feb 22 2007, 09:24 AM
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I have a problem with this "going out" thing, but not because of the interracial nature of the relationship (my 17 year-old daughter is dating a hispanic boy). The problem I have is the development of a serious relationship at such a young age. I think 12 is a little young to be "going steady." If you think this is more of a puppy-love type thing and that nothing serious will come of it in the short term, well I have no other real advice other than to monitor the relationship. Our youngest daughter, who is 13, recently met a boy she likes, too, but she understands that she's too young for a serious dating relationship.
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