Crushes, what to say

[mysweetpeasWil&Wes]

Wil has a little crush on a girl named Lily at PS. I find it actually pretty cute, but he is starting to talk about her constantly. Yesterday evening, he told me he wanted to buy Lily a new cat. I asked, what happened to her cat? And he replied, it died. We talked about how sad Lily must feel, but I wondered if this story was really true. I told him we couldn't get Lily a cat because her mommy and daddy may not want another cat. I said maybe we can buy her a stuffed cat instead. That satisfied him for awhile...Until he came to me with a drawing of a cat that he demanded taking to her. He just keeps coming up with these very innocent ideas, but I'm not sure how to respond without crushing his "crush" on Lily. What do you say? He is only 4! I spoke with his teacher a little about it and she says ALL the boys like Lily. They fight over who gets to sit next to her. But I think maybe it goes both ways with Lily and Wil. And it begins!!!!

[moped]

I think it is very cute!!!!!

Jack has a crush on a girl at PS too, Myla.....I like her but secretly I don't like her mom, she is snooty and prissy and it doesn't help that Tom thinks she is a MILF

[Kaitlin'smom]

it does beging early Kaitlin had a few crushes in PS and was calling the boy across the street her boyfriend for a while, and now she like a differnt one in her K class. I think its cute.

[AlexsPajamaMama]

Alex has a little crush too on a girl in his pre-k class. Her name is Victoria. They are "married" He comes to me and says the other day I'm married to Victoria but I dont even know where she lives!! Its super cute!! He tells me all the time Mommy I am handsome to Victoria. I asked did she tell him that and he says No I just know it!!

[redchief]

I don't see any real harm in his crush. It seems to me that you're doing very well with the situation.

[luvmykids]

We've had lots of crushes here too. I get a kick out of them for the most part, when I think one of the kids is maybe going overboard I just back off in my response, lots of "Uh huh" and "Hmmms", kind of similar to the way I handle behavior that doesn't warrant discipline but doesn't need to be encouraged, either.

[Maddie&EthansMom]

What Monica said.

Ethan is a ladie's man. Even the older girls adore him. But there are two girls who have his heart. Cassidy and Chloe. Scotty and Maddie encourage it...I try to downplay it b/c he gets quite embarassed.

[Boo&BugsMom]

According to Tanner, he has 100 girlfriends. I wonder if someday he will belong to one of those polygamy compounds. All jokes aside, he has had one crush that has been going on since the start of last school year. Kathryn. He absolutely loves Kathryn. He talks about how pretty she is and how they are going to get married and have babies when they are older. Honestly, at this age they just don't comprehend the reality of anything like that. I think it's very innocent, and very cute. I don't encourage anything, but I certainly don't get on him about anything. It's actually pretty funny to hear their explanations of things, and wonder what goes on in that head of his. If he wanted to buy Kathryn a cat, I'd just say what you did and then let it alone or change the subject. Don't worry about it. It's very innocent, and very common. It's almost like a milestone at this age.

ETA: Here would be a typical convo in our house.

Tanner: Mommy, I am going to marry Kathryn.
Me: Oh, are you now?
Tanner: Yeah, when we are about 14.
Me: Oh, you think that's old enough?
Tanner: Yeah, I can get a job.
Me: Oh, please do, then you can buy your own clothes. You know when you get married you have to move out of the house too?
Tanner: No, we can all live here.
Me: Um, I don't think so, but if you don't get married at 14 you can still live here.
Tanner: Ok.

They just don't "get it", and they probably wont for awhile.

This post has been edited by Boo&BugsMom on Nov 22 2008, 10:36 AM