Sterilization

Poor Ed!! and sorry Lisa, I admit I did get a mental image of the whole jumping off of the table thing..which I think could be wrong..lol..in so many ways!

Aww man! I could never do that to dh (although sometimes I fantasize about him having excruciating pain down there ). He is not good with pain and I would be drove nuts with him. I know how he is when he has a cold. No way!

Oh don't say that. I was so hoping.

On looking back on my post, I should add that it sounds worse than it really was. In writing that, I was taken back to a very uncomfortable time in my life. One I would not wish to live again, but I have only a single regret and I would still have the procedure today even if I could have known my level of discomfort.

My one regret? According to my faith, my vasectomy was a sin. I feel a little guilt about that, and no it isn't something I can explain or debate.

Very descriptive, Ed!! Cracked me right up. No offense...

My dh won't get a vasectomy, although i kinda wish he would have. I'm getting my tubes tied at the end of the month, though.

Thank you Ed for posting your story. My DH had a double hernia down there when he was a boy and has a couple of little scars. We will have to ask if this could cause him any problems. Also, I wasn't sure where he was even supposed to go to have this done.

I have to admit that there is a part of me that feels a little guilty for getting this done because of my religion also. I'm not really sure if it is considered a sin or not, but I think it is what's best for us and I can only pray God agrees.

Dh and I talked about it a while ago. I'm going to get my tubes tied when we're done having kids. I don't know if we'll have another child or not. We know we want to be done having kids by the time we're 30, so that's in about 3 years so hopefully we'll have time to have another if we decide to. But I figured after 2 c-sections I could handle another surgery, especially if it's so simple. But it does make me a little sad though. It almost feels like something is being taken away from me. But I don't want Dh to get a vasectomy, and he really really doesn't want one.

Jas and I have decided that he will have a vasectomy after the birth of our 5th child. If, after the procedure, we decided we wanted more we would adopt-something we might like to pursue either way. He's not so happy that he gets to be the one to have the "pleasure" of getting fixed, but I figure it's his turn to experience a little discomfort.

Just to add my husband's experience to the mix - his was actually done on Tuesday this week (so 3 days ago). He did spend almost the first 2 days doing nothing but sitting with ice the whole time, and he doesn't want to go ride a bike or anything, but he said it's never really been painful - he hasn't had to take any of the pain pills the doctor prescribed at all.

Well, thanks for all the stories, guys. It's always good to go into something, anything, with your eyes wide open. I will have dh check all these links out (since it's his surgery). Before coming to the vasectomy option, I was thinking about doing the Mirena. But after all the horror stories I read about that, I chickened out.
One little thought about the incompatibility of birth control and religion. My mom was a pretty observant Catholic during her child-bearing years. But after having 3 kids in 3 years and trying to support us all on my dad's paltry Catholic school teacher salary of $4000/yr, she decided that if she had anymore kids, the priest could get up in the middle of the night to take care of them, work 3 jobs to clothe them, etc.. Though one can understand the Catholic Church's agenda, to put as many little Catholics on the planet as possible, it wasn't compatible with my family's well-being, though that was certainly no concern of theirs'.
Not looking to debate this. Just sharing my family's experience.

DH is 40 and I am 29. Annika is 2 and we are looking at TTC after our cruise in May. We have decided if I have to have a c- section (which I pray not) then I would get my tubes tied. If no C then he will get the big V. He has plenty of friends who have had it done and they haven't had any problems. My cousins both got their Vs 15 years ago because they both decided they never wanted children and whoever was to be with them should understand. They never had problems either.

We want at least one more, if not 2 more, and if I end up having c-sections for the last baby, I will have my tubes cut. I figure, they have to be in there anyways. I'm kinda on the fence as to if I want to try a VBAC or not given my complications with Carly's birth... I HAD to have a c-section or she would have died, and it had to do with my body size. I would fear of putting my baby in danger by trying a VBAC.

Thank you for sharing your family experience.