I think in your situation its actually pretty normal. I can understand why you feel that way. If you cant bond with the baby now, you will as soon as you give birth. | Printable Version of Topic
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| Posted by: mummy2girls Dec 4 2008, 07:24 AM |
| But i cant let myself bond with this baby inside me. I love the fact im pregnant and that im going to be a mommy again and have this precious baby in my arms soon.... but because of my past experiences I just cant let myself bond.. Does this sound horrible? Im glad we are not finding out what we are having because if i found out it was a boy i may be more withdrawn:( and worried... |
| Posted by: lisar Dec 4 2008, 07:52 AM |
| I think in your situation its actually pretty normal. I can understand why you feel that way. If you cant bond with the baby now, you will as soon as you give birth. |
| Posted by: msoulz Dec 4 2008, 09:42 AM |
| I too had a couple of losses - not as difficult as yours though - and I felt the same way for a long time. There's nothing horrible about it . It is you trying to protect yourself. Just keep doing the right things for the baby and feel good knowing that. |
| Posted by: Crystalina Dec 4 2008, 09:44 AM |
| I can't say I know what you're going through and feeling but I just wanted to give and let you know that I'm sure when the time nears you will bond. Some women don't/can't bond until after their baby is here. |
| Posted by: Mommy2Isabella Dec 4 2008, 11:42 AM |
| It doesn't sound horrible, especially after what you went through! |
| Posted by: CantWait Dec 4 2008, 12:15 PM |
| I can't even pretend to know what you're going through...did you feel this way with Jenna? Honestly this could be a early PPD (which can accur in pregnancy as well), I'd talk to your doctor about it. |
| Posted by: mummy2girls Dec 4 2008, 12:56 PM | ||
no its not PPD I did feel it with jenna. I didnt even hold jenna after she was born because i was worried. When you lose 2 sons its hard to bond with a baby when your preggo. so i know its not PPD. this is somethign completely different |
| Posted by: CantWait Dec 4 2008, 01:32 PM | ||||
I hope you don't think I was trying to pounce on you. I was only curious as to whether you felt like this with Jenna, I can see how you would feel that way. |
| Posted by: gr33n3y3z Dec 4 2008, 01:36 PM |
| I think it is very normal hun |