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Halo42101	Posted: Jun 10 2006, 04:11 AM
Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 1,328 Member No.: 3,035 Joined: 3-January 06	I have a question for the men on our board. Do you have a different way of dealing with grief then your wife or s/o? I was just curious because since mine & my husband's m/c, it seems he had a much easier time moving on than me. And when I try to talk to him about it, he says he is not sure what to say. It's not that he's not supportive to me about it, he just doesn't know how to talk to me about it. I was just wondering if this is normal for men. Thanks for all the men who reply.

gregory04210	Posted: Jun 10 2006, 04:24 AM
New Member Group: Members Posts: 16 Member No.: 3,882 Joined: 7-June 06	Men just deal with emotions totally differant than women

redchief	Posted: Jun 10 2006, 11:33 AM
Platinum Member Group: Moderators Posts: 8,629 Member No.: 800 Joined: 5-October 04	I agree with what Greg said. Men and women handle grief emotions differently. Men will normally immerse themselves in work or other interests, using those as diversions while time heals the grief. -------------------- Ed is husband to Lisa (since 1983) Dad to Ricky, John, Erin and Kaitlin The Administrators of the Parenting Club take trolls and violators of the Terms of Service Agreement seriously. Please report any suspicions to the Moderators. Report a post using the "report" button in the upper right corner of the offending post.

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Posted: Jun 10 2006, 11:35 AM

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QUOTE (redchief @ Jun 10 2006, 03:33 PM)

I agree with what Greg said. Men and women handle grief emotions differently. Men will normally immerse themselves in work or other interests, using those as diversions while time heals the grief.

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salmndr007	Posted: Jun 12 2006, 05:31 AM
Bronze Member Group: Validating Posts: 291 Member No.: 3,036 Joined: 3-January 06	I agree with what has already been said. I know what I do with grief. Usually I immerse myself in work or helping others. I usually internalize it and then move on after I feel I have done my part in grieving. --------------------

kimberley	Posted: Jun 12 2006, 05:38 AM
Diamond Member Group: Moderators Posts: 18,627 Member No.: 249 Joined: 28-August 03	i totally agree with the others. when dh and i lost our angel in nov 02, i was devastated. i still have my bad days. dh was supportive the first few months but seemed emotionally removed after that. part of it was that even though he knew i was pg with his baby, pg is not real for most men until they see the baby, so it is difficult for them to be as emotionally invested as we are when we are the ones who feel it growing inside our bodies. and he is the type of guy who needs to move forward and not dwell. he did his mourning and was ready to move on. that doesn't mean he loved me or our baby any less than i did, it just means he deals with things differently. we are always here if you need to talk -------------------- mama to Jacob, James, Jade, Kaleigh and Riley!! The Administrators of Parenting Club take violators of the Terms of Service Agreement seriously. Please report any suspicions to the Moderators. Report a post using the "report" button in the upper right corner of the offending post.

TheOaf66	Posted: Jun 12 2006, 07:09 AM
The Alpha Male Group: Members Posts: 4,988 Member No.: 3,764 Joined: 23-May 06	yes, men are not real keen on showing emotion when it comes to grieving, they will keep it locked up inside and deal with it privately, for a man the best way to deal with it is not to talk about it...that is true for many situations -------------------- Troy, Married to Jennie (Boo&BugsMom), Dad to Tanner("Mini-Me") and Aiden ("Boo Boo").

Halo42101	Posted: Jun 12 2006, 07:46 AM
Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 1,328 Member No.: 3,035 Joined: 3-January 06	Thank you all for your replies. They all hit home and I can see Theron dealing with it alot like you all said. It helps to know.

TheOaf66	Posted: Jun 12 2006, 07:56 AM
The Alpha Male Group: Members Posts: 4,988 Member No.: 3,764 Joined: 23-May 06	the best advice I can give is let him deal with it in his own way -------------------- Troy, Married to Jennie (Boo&BugsMom), Dad to Tanner("Mini-Me") and Aiden ("Boo Boo").

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