Recently single mom

Like I said in the main forum my df and I have just spilt for the last and final time. I am about to move out of state to get away from the situation I am in and just wnated to know how do I handle moving with a 2 yr old who always asks where's dady when he's only at work. I have tried to think of a way to stay in the same state but it's just not gonna happen so I know she will be lucky to see him maybe once a month even though we are 6 hours away. I also have an 8 month old with medical issues so I am def gonna need my family helping me and only that can happen if I move. I just feel bad for taking our daughter away from her dad like tihs.

I wish I had some advice for you!!!

I know it is FAR from ideal but you have to do what you think is best and as long as you stay strong for her she'll feel stable. I know it's a scary move but you, as the primary caregiver, have to do whats best for you and the kids.

This will be best and this way we can all start working on moving on. Of course their dad is trying to guilt me into staying but I just can't fathome how me staying in the same house as him is oging to work at all. I just feel so bad for doing this to the kids and him but yet have no choice. It's just not fair

I don't really have any advice but I did want to give you some sort of support. My mom left my dad when I was about two. Of course, I don't remember any of the actual leaving or anything like that but I do know that I respect my mom for perservering and being the best mom she could be during all those years of struggles we had.

As long as he is willing to stay involved, he can. It will take some work but you guys will be able to figure out things. Web cam "dates" for the two of them, weekends at dads etc.

Good luck and check in with us to let us know how you are doing.

i agree You can not heal and move on with him smack in your face every day! Yes it would be best for HIM if you stayed but not for you and the kids. The kids need to be able to see you guys get along and be happy and not fighta nd yell! Its a hard choice to make to jump into the parental world alone. But you will have your family so that will be good for you all. If you need any advice im here.. ive been doing this for almost 5 years.

I agree you have to be happy to take care of the kids.

I finally got in touch with my dad and there is just no way I can move right now. So I am trying to find a full time job to work around his schedule but he is beng a butt....says he has no days off and so on. Yea i know but he doesnt go to work till 4 in the evening so i can work till then.