Home | Contact Us | Community | News | Resources | Entertainment | Shop | Parenting BlogsPlease visit our sponsors:
Parenting, Pregnancy & Baby Message Boards
Would you like to support Parenting Club? Click here for donation information  
Google
Share |

 
Reply to this topicStart new topicStart Poll

> dads I need help, trying to help my husband
dartinmyheart
Posted: Aug 7 2006, 10:59 AM
Quote Post


Newbie
*

Group: Members
Posts: 1
Member No.: 4,349
Joined: 7-August 06



guys i need your help. My husband and i have been married for 10 years. we have a 9 y/o son and a 7 y/o daughter. my problem is that my husbands anger with our son is nuts. he has never hurt him and he is trying really hard to get his anger under control (going to councelling...) Usually he is really good but the other day he got mad at my son and yelled and threatened him. he would never act on it and he apologized to my son for it. Ay advice? How should i handle it? can you help me understand where this is coming from? is there real hope for change?
thanks for your help
jennifer
PMEmail Poster
Top
luvmykids
Posted: Aug 7 2006, 12:06 PM
Quote Post


Diamond Member
**********

Group: Members
Posts: 19,113
Member No.: 3,038
Joined: 3-January 06



I'm not a dad but welcome, and I have a son who has a dad that sounds similar to your situation .....My only advice would be to tell your husband up front that he does need to seek counseling for his anger, my guess is if it's only directed at your son then it really isn't about your son but something else that your son happens to trigger. If your husband won't see a counselor, I would suggest that you do, they are great at helping you understand what needs to happen next. hug.gif
PMEmail Poster
Top
TheOaf66
Posted: Aug 7 2006, 12:36 PM
Quote Post


The Alpha Male
*******

Group: Members
Posts: 4,988
Member No.: 3,764
Joined: 23-May 06



I guess I would have to know the situation as to why dad was upset? I deal with this as I just have frustration issues but it is something only he can deal with. Usually the best advice I can give is walk away from the situation, calm down, and then discuss, I always feel bad that sometimes my boy is almost scared of me so I always try and talk to him afterwards calmly to try and resolve it.


--------------------
Troy, Married to Jennie (Boo&BugsMom), Dad to Tanner("Mini-Me") and Aiden ("Boo Boo").
PMEmail Poster
Top

redchief
Posted: Aug 11 2006, 09:16 AM
Quote Post


Platinum Member
********

Group: Moderators
Posts: 8,629
Member No.: 800
Joined: 5-October 04



I'm sorry I'm so late in responding to your post. I was going to several times, but didn't for fear I'd be saying the wrong things. I figured out why, now, I have been unable to respond. I really don't have enough information regarding his "anger" or "threatening" to make a valid, intelligent response. Can you be more specific?


--------------------

Ed is husband to Lisa (since 1983)
Dad to Ricky, John, Erin and Kaitlin

The Administrators of the Parenting Club take trolls and violators of the Terms of Service Agreement seriously. Please report any suspicions to the Moderators. Report a post using the "report" button in the upper right corner of the offending post.
PMEmail PosterAOLYahooMSN
Top
Boo&BugsMom
Posted: Aug 16 2006, 11:34 AM
Quote Post


Two peas in a pod!
********

Group: Members
Posts: 6,563
Member No.: 3,766
Joined: 23-May 06



I would suggest him going to an anger management class. It sounds, from what you described, that he at least acknowledges how he acts, which is a good start...he apologizes, etc. I think it would be for his benefit and your son's that he take a class like that to manage his anger better. Perhaps a course on positive discipline would work out well too. Is your son doing outrageous things? I guess that is my only question...what does your son do that he gets so upset?


--------------------
Jennie: mommy to two handsome little men, a crazy husband (TheOaf66), and two cats.
PM
Top

1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members:

Topic Options Reply to this topicStart new topicStart Poll

 





[ Script Execution time: 0.0083 ]   [ 11 queries used ]   [ GZIP Enabled ]