An Uneasy Appt. A rant Long, What do you think?

Well I had my first appt. yesterday. It wasn't what I expected. He did an internal exam and says, "Well if I didn't know that you were pregnant I couldn't tell by your uterus. However your cervix is etremely soft. That is a sign" So I ask him if that is normal that my uterus hasn't grown. He says "Well it can be normal. What we will do is have you come back in 2 1/2 weeks and see if we can here the heartbeat. All though I doubt we will."

Ok now I am freaking out because what I have read on the internet says that my uterus should have grown right now!! And the uncertain response from my Dr. saying it COULD be normal! Don't get me wrong I normally love my Dr. but come on!!! You are talking to a girl who has had previous miscarriages. I thought I was ok til I went to this appt. Now I just don't know! I don't even want to try and listen to the hearbeat if he doesn't think he will hear it. That will just make it worse! I just don't know what to do.

Oh yeah! His constant asking me about my PG symptoms made it even worse! They ask what they are. I tell him tired, sore breasts, and frequent urination. That's all I have. He kept asking if I was sure that that was all I had! Well Duh! I knnow my own body! But that's all I had when I was PG with my boys. When I had my miscarriages I never had any symptoms.

I am sorry I am just a little uneasy now. I thought I would be ok but I don't know how to handle this again.

If you made it this far GOD BLESS YOU!!!! I just needed to get it out. I told my husband the Appt. went ok as to not worry him. But he could tell there was something wrong.

Anyway thanks for listening! I appreciate it. You are the best

I'm saying a prayer for you!

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WOW sorry he wasn't trying to be at least a little reassuring. You know that sometimes it can take up to 12 weeks to hear a heartbeat, please don't get discouraged.

Many prayers that everything is ok.

I'm sorry your doctor wasn't a little more helpful but sometimes it is difficult in the beginning, why didn't he give you a blood test if there is any question about wether you are or not?

Hope everything is ok

I hope everything is ok
saying a prayer for you

Thank you for all of your words of encouragement. I have decided to take things one day at a time. I am going to try not to worry so much. I have my two boys to keep me occupied!

I'm so sorry. I hope and pray he is wrong. Let us know what happens, and I'm praying for a perfect outcome and healthy baby for you...

Sorry your doctor wasn't more reassuring. I think sometimes they don't realize how they come across and what they put us through!

I think you should tell your DH about your appointment. You'd probably feel a lot better to have him to talk to about all this. Glad you are taking it one day at at time... try to stay positive.

I'm so sorry. The doc could have been a bit more sensitive to you. Hopefully when you go back you'll have a little heartbeat!