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coasterqueen
  Posted: Feb 1 2007, 01:03 PM
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Dh and I talked last night and decided that starting Feb 16 a month before Megan turns 2) that we will start the weaning process for Megan. As most of you already know the only way I will wean is if it's a slow and very painless process for Megan. I don't want this to be traumatizing to her at all, but I also know I don't want to go too far past 2 years. I've been nursing long enough and honestly and shamefully enough I'm ready to be done. Megan only nurses right before bed and either the mid of night or first thing in the morning. We already know she can handle not nursing before bed because she does that every Tuesday and sometimes one other day during the week when I'm gone for work. I will be gone more in the evenings at bedtime as session heats up. So starting Feb 16 we will completely wean from the bedtime feeding. Dh will take over every night putting her to bed. This should be easy, I hope. It's easy when I'm not there, not sure what it will be like when she knows I'm home.

The other feeding - that middle of the night or 1st thing in the morning feeding is going to be a NIGHTMARE! We will start the weaning process on that one once we are sure the other one is gone for good.

So any tips from the masters who have already been through this. I particularly would like to hear from those who have weaned older children, but gladly hear from all. TIA!


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Posted: Feb 1 2007, 01:26 PM
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I bet it won't be as hard as you think to break her of the middle of the night one. That is, as long as R is willing to deal with her. If he takes her and just walks around with her soothing her, it should only take at most a week I would think. We did that with Sophia at around 18months and she started sleeping through the night within the week. Sure, there will be screaming, but to me, screaming in the arms of her mommy or daddy is not the same as leaving a baby to scream alone in her crib wink.gif You may feel differently though.

With Nora I moved out of the bedroom completely. She still wakes up, but S can pat her back and she is back out within a minute.

First thing in the morning will be hard, but you just have to use distraction. As soon as she gets up, start your routine - get out of bed, don't snuggle her on the couch or anything. Just get her moving!

Good luck. I really think it will be easier than you anticipate hug.gif


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Posted: Feb 1 2007, 01:26 PM
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the morning one is easy.. distract her. get her to help make breakfast, buy her a new toothbrush so she can brush her teeth, let her watch a favorite show... whatever works. the middle of the night one will be harder. that was the last to go with Jade and when she was hurt or sad. i would try to give her comfort with hugs and kisses instead but a few times i had to flat out tell her she was a big girl and she didn't need "snuggle".. she needed "cuddle". there is a lot of negotiating.. well at least there was with us cuz Jade was well over 2 when she weaned. i found that giving her "big girl" stuff to do helped also. she now helps me wash dishes, cook, get supplies to change her sister...

i wish you luck. hug.gif


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Posted: Feb 1 2007, 01:27 PM
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LOL i just read Amy's reply.. opposite to mine! hahaha laugh.gif


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Posted: Feb 1 2007, 01:28 PM
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QUOTE (kimberley @ Feb 1 2007, 05:27 PM)
LOL i just read Amy's reply.. opposite to mine! hahaha laugh.gif

Hee hee! Still the same advice though. thumb.gif


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Posted: Feb 1 2007, 01:39 PM
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Thanks ladies. You are right the first thing in the morning I can use distraction and one way to do that is to hand her her sippy of milk as soon as she wants it from me. happy.gif Honestly there are other times of the day, like right after work she will ask for it and I just give her a sippy and she's fine. I've done that the last two months, I guess, and that's working.

That middle of the night one is going to be awful, not only for her but because Dh doesn't get up with her and he has no patience for that in the mid of night. I've told him he's going to have to step up to the plate, but I'm afraid that means letting her CIO if he can't get her calmed down. rolleyes.gif

Do you think he can give her a sippy of milk in the mid of night when we do this one? I know they say it's not good, but maybe we can do it til she gets used to the whole idea, and then switch to water.?.

I really hope you are right and it's easier than I think. I am so ready to be done.

Oh I have one other question that DH has me REALLY freaked out about.....when you quit nursing how was your hormones? I know they say they get all whacked out again. Dh said "what if your hormones go back to the way they were be4 pg and nursing and you don't like who you are anymore because you got used to the person you were for 4+ years?" For some stupid reason that has me freaked out. Should I be? happy.gif unsure.gif happy.gif


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Posted: Feb 2 2007, 12:35 PM
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dunno.gif my hormones didn't change much and i assumed that was because we were hardly nursing anymore anyway. the big "surges" were pregnancy, birth and starting solids.

Karen, quitting nursing is not gonna change who you are. you are still a mom, a wife, an employee and a fun friend. i think you will be surprised how little of a bump it is because you open so many new doors with Megan.. you kinda forget nursing. i also suspect you will enjoy your new found freedom and getting "the girls" back laugh.gif hug.gif hug.gif


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Posted: Feb 2 2007, 12:53 PM
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Having just completed weaning Jack (at 25 months), it depends on the child. Jamison was harder and thank goodness I got pregnant and lost milk or she would have stayed attached forever. Jack was comfortable going to bed with my DH and therefore it started making it easier for him to go back to sleep with him. I slept in another room and would go up to nurse occasionally when I heard him but those became further and further between because he just got used to me not being next to him to latch onto whenever he felt the urge. We have not nursed in 3 weeks and he asked for it the other night but settled for a snuggle (after a bit of a fuss). Try sleeping separately and going up to her for the nursing, maybe the time in between would lengthen until she slept through. I did take a sippy of water to bed for Jack and it worked a couple of times.



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Posted: Feb 2 2007, 01:59 PM
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Kimberley..oh I'd LOVE to have the girls back.....back to their super awesome perky state, but that was AGES ago. rolleyes.gif rolleyes.gif I wish you could tell me they'd come back when I'm done nursing but I know you would have to lie to tell me that. rolling_smile.gif A gal can wish though. blush.gif

Brenda - we haven't co-slept since Megan was about 9 months or so because of her reflux issues and needing to be in the Ambi. I just get up and go feed her when she needs me. She used to go all night w/o waking until she started getting her 2 year molars ages rolleyes.gif ago (still trying to come in), but since then she's up at least once a night. rolleyes.gif I just nurse her, put her back in the crib and go back to bed. Last night Dh went in there first when she fussed in the middle of the night and she did good for about an hour and she was right back up fussing and wailing for me. rolleyes.gif I guess we'll try that approach for awhile and hopefully she'll stretch it out more and more.

W/Kylie I got pg too so it was easy. Not so easy this time around. happy.gif

Thanks again ladies for all your advice. hug.gif


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