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moped |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 10:03 AM
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Ruby Member Group: Members Posts: 13,078 Member No.: 1,035 Joined: 5-December 04 |
So I will nurse this child.......now I guess i have 2 questions.
1. how does the other child react?? Or do they seem to care much at all? 2. If you could give me one peice of advice on nursing what would it be? I did nurse Jack but also supplemented with formula at about 4 months. -------------------- |
Jamison'smama |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 10:09 AM
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My Little Loves Group: Moderators Posts: 5,145 Member No.: 214 Joined: 7-July 03 |
Jamison was younger but didn't seem to care. During the initial marathon BF sessions, she would sit with me and we would read or watch a show together. I would also try to have special things that she could do only when I BF --chalkboard, lacing cards etc. It was her big girl basket.
Advice, well you made it through the hardest stage last time--give it a good 6 weeks to feel comfortable. Change positions as much as she'll let you to decrease the plugged ducts, in general, get help the second you need it. Use that time to relax. With another child at home, you will find there is a lot less relaxing and quiet bonding moments but BF makes it so that you have no other choice---your DH can't do it while you clean the house, you have to do it so take full advantage! -------------------- Brenda, a mom and wife in love with my family
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mysweetpeasWil&Wes |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 10:16 AM
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Platinum Member Group: Members Posts: 8,735 Member No.: 1,474 Joined: 1-March 05 |
How did my child react?....Jealous. But Wil was still under two when Wesley was born. It could be different for you. I know my sister tried to read to her older child WHILE she was nursing, but I could never get the hang of doing both at the same time. I wanted to relax and focus on Wesley, not a book, kwim? But you can always let your older child cuddle while you nurse. Or put in a video or tell Jack you will play a special game with just him after you nurse. I wasn't so good at this, but I bet giving a warning like "I'm going to feed the baby now, would you like to help me get ____?" or "how about in ten minutes just you and mommy will bake cookies together". It's no easy task, especially when it's those first few months and you are trying to juggle it all, but if you have extra help from family and friends to give Jack extra attention, then he should be fine. We don't have family around and DH works late, so it was just me and that made Wil really jealous.
One piece of advice....RELAX. The more you stress about how much, how little, how much she's taking, how much you're pumping out - the harder it gets and the easier it is to quit IMO. Just have faith. Talk to a LC if you are having any doubts. -------------------- Rae SAHM to Wil (4) and Wesley (2) ~ Wife to Richard 10/20/01
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CantWait |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 10:19 AM
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Diamond Member Group: Members Posts: 20,387 Member No.: 28 Joined: 1-March 03 |
Robbie was much older then Jack is. He was fine with it, and would often get me water, or a snack, or fix himself something. He was a trooper and a big help.
I guess my biggest advice would be to drink lots of water, enjoy the bonding, don't rush it, but at the 6 week mark if you don't want a booby baby, suppliment once or twice a day and have daddy or Jack feed the baby. This is just myself though, and truly I think had Anthony had a bottle every once in a while during the time Ron was away, then weaning him to a sippy, or anything else wouldn't have been such an issue. And as Rae said, it takes time. Don't stress. Oh and it can be painful for the first few weeks, but it does get better. This post has been edited by CantWait on Nov 20 2007, 10:20 AM -------------------- |
boyohboyohboy |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 10:47 AM
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Platinum Member Group: Members Posts: 5,352 Member No.: 3,466 Joined: 22-March 06 |
when i had jake and caleb was 4 i nursed jake, and caleb was facinated with it, so he attempted to nurse his stuffed animals..
and he wasnt shy about it..he was also really curious. but he was fine, and when i nursed andrew, they both were curious, no problems, but they always seemed to ask the most embarrassing questions only when we had company..never when we were alone. i would say the most important thing is taking one day at a time..some days are better then other.. but it was so worth it. -------------------- Stacy, wife to Peter, mom to Caleb, Jakob, and Andrew
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lovemy2 |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 10:58 AM
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I didn't last too long but mostly because Dylan just wasn't good at it He hated it and so did I although I had hoped I wouldn't but anyway - Olivia - she was obviously older than Jack but she was fasinated with it and asked all kinds of questions but they were good questions and she always thought it was silly when Mommy pumped or pulled out a BB
From what everyone says the best way to be successful is to try to relax during it all and go with the flow so to speak - no pun intended - it is stressful - that I know first hand and I wish I had had more help with it or had gotten help with it sooner - -------------------- |
holley79 |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 11:22 AM
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Platinum Member Group: Members Posts: 9,140 Member No.: 2,515 Joined: 19-September 05 |
1. how does the other child react?? Or do they seem to care much at all?
Well Brandon was 16 so you could imagine. 2. If you could give me one peice of advice on nursing what would it be? Just remember it's NOT natural. Have everything you need before hand and have a special mommy area where you can keep everything close at hand for when you sit down to nurse. Nothing like sitting down to nurse and remembering you forgot a glass of water, a towel, ect. -------------------- Holley~ Loving wife to Shawn, (03/22/03), stepmom to Brandon (5/23/88), mom to Annika Lily (12/28/05).
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boyohboyohboy |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 11:59 AM
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Platinum Member Group: Members Posts: 5,352 Member No.: 3,466 Joined: 22-March 06 |
i had a nursing "place" with caleb it was right in the living room, with jake it was in m bed room..
it consisted of a comfy chair and stool, that rocked, and i had a little table beside me, burp clothes, that breast cream stuff, water, books, and a basket that kept a diaper and what ever diapering stuff you need, because he always went between sides. the cordless phone.... remote to the tv.. just everything in reach on the right side... and no one to bother me.. -------------------- Stacy, wife to Peter, mom to Caleb, Jakob, and Andrew
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bawoodsmall |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 12:24 PM
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Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 1,201 Member No.: 13,464 Joined: 8-August 07 |
I liked the read a book idea but Jack may be a little old for that. He is old enough to know that mommy needs to feed the baby but I will play with you later while the baby is napping imo.
Get a lactation consultant!!! Relax and do it somewhere where there isnt a lot of commotion. Aiden never became a good nurser and it may have helped if it was quieter. Good Luck!! -------------------- [/IMG]
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luvmykids |
Posted: Nov 20 2007, 12:32 PM
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Diamond Member Group: Members Posts: 19,113 Member No.: 3,038 Joined: 3-January 06 |
The twins were just about to turn two and weren't jealous, more fascinated It did take a little time for them to learn to kind of back off and not try to sit right on top of me, etc but we did read a lot during those times...I think even though Jack is old enough to understand it's a nice way to include him
Advice....like everyone else has said...it's not always easy so stick it out, try to relax, and like Marie said, IMHO it's not so bad to pump and let someone else give her a bottle once in awhile to give you a break. I did that and it didn't screw up the nursing but it did give me a nice break sometimes. |