potty training..

help!
Ok someone on here had given me some advice to get Jake going on his potty training he was being so stubborn...well the advice was to tell him that he wont be turning three and his birthday wont come (along with cake and presents) until he starts going to the potty.

well in a week now he hasnt had a poopy accident. He makes it every time..

we are still using pull ups because he was really making a mess other wise..
but he doesnt seem to get the idea of going pee in the potty. he started tellling me that he has to go, but i think its the cold sensation he feels from the pull up not the sensation of going pee..
how did you get them to pee in the potty?
His birthday is monday, so we are under pressure to get it right..

we are allowing some leverage for real accidents..

just so you dont think we are totally mean parents for taking away his birthday.

i am in a similar potty nightmare. sorry no advice, every kid is different. just lotsa empathy.

I've heard that boys are harder to train than girls. I've heard that for boys you can put cheerios in the potty and let them shoot for the cheerios. I think the advice was meant for helping them to aim, but I think it would just be fun too.

Good luck!!

Ok, I will speak up since it was my friend who gave me the "no birthday" idea, in which I then gave to you.

How about placing a potty chair near him when he has to go? In the living room, or where he is playing? That way it's not far away.

Another thing, make sure he is filling up on liquids then take him in the bathroom or on the potty chair every 30 minutes or so. If you withhold the liquids, then the opportunities can be further apart, making it more difficult for him to know when he has to go. Whatever you do, don't just sit back and wait for him to tell you. And DON'T ASK him, always just send him to the potty, continuously every 30-45 minutes. You can use Cheerios to make it fun. They float and they can aim, even if they are sitting down.

Honestly, if he doesn't have it BY Monday, I don't think it would be mean to "withhold the birthday" for another week or two. If you think about it, birthday parties are rarely on the birth day itself anyways. Plus, this just may be the push he needs. When that day arrives, he'll hopefully realize you mean business. JMO.

Just to add, this is just me, but I hate pull ups for training purposes. They are no different than a diaper, and keeping them on only delays the training, IMO. Again...JMO. They will have many accidents, that is inevitable. I always told parents to bring at least 5 changes of clothes with them each day to my home when I did daycare. With Tanner and any daycare kid I had training, I usually had them sit on a waterproof mattress pad, or something similar when they were seated on carpeting or something of the like. That way I was still going head first into the training (not beating around the bush with it), but it made clean up a lot easier. I called it the "potty accident pad". Just cut a mattress pad in quarters and label them "Jake's Potty Pad". Tell him it's a game to see if he can go all day without getting it wet.

This post has been edited by Boo&BugsMom on Oct 30 2008, 09:59 AM

Ok, I will speak up since it was my friend who gave me the "no birthday" idea, in which I then gave to you.

How about placing a potty chair near him when he has to go? In the living room, or where he is playing? That way it's not far away.

Another thing, make sure he is filling up on liquids then take him in the bathroom or on the potty chair every 30 minutes or so. If you withhold the liquids, then the opportunities can be further apart, making it more difficult for him to know when he has to go. Whatever you do, don't just sit back and wait for him to tell you. And DON'T ASK him, always just send him to the potty, continuously every 30-45 minutes. You can use Cheerios to make it fun. They float and they can aim, even if they are sitting down.

Honestly, if he doesn't have it BY Monday, I don't think it would be mean to "withhold the birthday" for another week or two. If you think about it, birthday parties are rarely on the birth day itself anyways. Plus, this just may be the push he needs. When that day arrives, he'll hopefully realize you mean business. JMO.

Just to add, this is just me, but I hate pull ups for training purposes. They are no different than a diaper, and keeping them on only delays the training, IMO. Again...JMO. They will have many accidents, that is inevitable. I always told parents to bring at least 5 changes of clothes with them each day to my home when I did daycare. With Tanner and any daycare kid I had training, I usually had them sit on a waterproof mattress pad, or something similar when they were seated on carpeting or something of the like. That way I was still going head first into the training (not beating around the bush with it), but it made clean up a lot easier. I called it the "potty accident pad". Just cut a mattress pad in quarters and label them "Jake's Potty Pad". Tell him it's a game to see if he can go all day without getting it wet.

YES! I thought that the pulls ups might be hindering things too.

I am going to wait till birthday central is over here, its also calebs birthday tomorrow..so we are withholding jakes party. hoping that the hoopla he sees from calebs party will inspire him to try harder..
then I got some thick mattress pads we had from andrews crib..and placed them on the couchs..
and I guess we do have to wear underware and push the water and take him every 30 mins..
and still do the sticker chart.

did i miss anything?

thats my plan for tomorrow then!

thank you!

I just wanted to say Good Luck.

Good luck!

We are in the same boat with my oldest - I swear potty training is enough to make me not want any more children - this sucks!