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luvbug00 |
Posted: May 16 2011, 08:42 AM
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So jon just text me telling me how he found closer to his ex and that if I hadn't dumped him he was going to propose memorial weekend.
I'm at work in TEARS! this is SOO CRUEL! I can't believe he is doing this. -------------------- Mya 7-1-00 |
PrairieMom |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:01 AM
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You so don't need that crap.
You did what was best for you and yours, if you are secure in that decision, then there is nothing left to do but eat icecream. Lots of it. Ben and Jerrys? |
luvmykids |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:28 AM
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First, he is only telling you that to be mean...get mad that he's being such a %*#%+!!!! Second, of course NOW he says he was going to propose...maybe he was really going to but it's suspiciously easy to say that AFTER you gave him the boot!
Take Taras advice and get some ice cream and give yourself time to cry. Hugs! |
mckayleesmom |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:36 AM
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You need to go NO CONTACT.....Just remember that you broke up for many reasons that weren't getting fixed. You broke up and got back together a few times and those things still didn't get fixed. By continuing to speak to him, you are just picking at a scab and not letting it heal and he is taking opportunities to pour salt into that wound. Even if you got back together tomorrow...all those problems will follow you.
When people break up they always have tons of stuff to list that they were "going to do". Why didn't they do them? Because they are now just pulling stuff out of their hats to make it look like they gave the relationship there all. Nobody wants to be the bad guy. They start to grasp at straws. I had an ex tell me he was going to kill himself if I left him...I told him to do what he had to do. If he was really going to kill himself...he was going to do it either way and I wasn't going to sacrifice myself to his manipulations. He is still alive today... You might be able to be friends with him eventually, but right now everything is still to raw. I would just block him off everything and stop responding. Besides, you are beautiful, have a great daughter and have an awesome new haircut. Your going to be ok without him. -------------------- Brianne
Wife to Leithan and mommy to Mckaylee (4) and Russell (3) Click here to help us grown our village http://schwartzville.myminicity.com/ |
mckayleesmom |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:37 AM
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Also...if he just now found closure from his ex then he shouldn't have been in a relationship with you at all in the first place.
-------------------- Brianne
Wife to Leithan and mommy to Mckaylee (4) and Russell (3) Click here to help us grown our village http://schwartzville.myminicity.com/ |
coasterqueen |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:38 AM
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I agree with the other advice given. I'm sorry.
-------------------- ~*Karen*~
wife to hubby, Ryan Douglas mommy to Kylie (9) and Megan (6.5) and furbabies Gavin, Buster, Sox, and Hailey |
luvmykids |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:41 AM
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I was going to say what Brianne said, you need to block him. If y'all had kids that'd be one thing, but you don't so there's nothing left to talk about. I know it will be hard but really he doesn't need to tell you any of this crap, and you don't need to hear it.
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luvbug00 |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:46 AM
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now he's just calling me every name in the book.
-------------------- Mya 7-1-00 |
PrairieMom |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:49 AM
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because that is how someone who loves you treats you. someone who loves you enough to spend eternity with you does not just flip to hating you the next second. You made the right decision. Close the book, and through the book out the window. Let him become someone else's problem. You don't need that crap. |
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mckayleesmom |
Posted: May 16 2011, 09:51 AM
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Because you are not bending over backwards to take him back....HANG UP The same ex I mentioned before use to break up with me everytime things didn't go his way. I was young and stupid and I would become devestated and pathetically begged for him to take me back. He would even take back my engagement ring. One time I was drunk and we got into a fight and he started the same crap...I was drunk so i really didn't care and just wanted to sleep...I realized at that moment that he just wanted me to beg him. He got off on me wanting him to love me so badly. Kind of like the boy who cried wolf because he pulled it again later and I shocked the crap out of him when I told him that I thought he was right...we should break up. All the sudden he was begging me, but at that time..My give a darn was busted. This just isn't panning out the way he wanted so he is mad. -------------------- Brianne
Wife to Leithan and mommy to Mckaylee (4) and Russell (3) Click here to help us grown our village http://schwartzville.myminicity.com/ |
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luvbug00 |
Posted: May 16 2011, 10:01 AM
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I couldn't be happier with my choice then I am right now.
-------------------- Mya 7-1-00 |
MommyToAshley |
Posted: May 16 2011, 10:21 AM
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CantWait |
Posted: May 16 2011, 11:14 AM
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This as well. You deserve better, don't look back. -------------------- |
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my2monkeyboys |
Posted: May 16 2011, 11:32 AM
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You deserve better... close that door, lock it and throw the key in the dump. I am glad you are happy and secure in your decision.
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Our Lil' Family |
Posted: May 16 2011, 12:04 PM
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I just want to ditto what everyone else has said!
-------------------- Naomi, Wife to Tim & Mommy to Thomas (7) and Andrew (2)
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msoulz |
Posted: May 16 2011, 02:00 PM
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Yes, that sums it up. And it is good to know you are happy with your decision - it certainly sounds like it was the RIGHT one. -------------------- |
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amymom |
Posted: May 16 2011, 02:26 PM
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I am glad to read this. Take care of you!!! -------------------- Anne Marie Mom to Billy & Mary Beth Wife to Lee |
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~Roo'sMama~ |
Posted: May 16 2011, 02:31 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly! -------------------- |
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boyohboyohboy |
Posted: May 16 2011, 04:12 PM
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He knew just the right buttons to push to hurt you the most...marriage.
That's not what someone who loves you does. Now he's calling you names, he's acting like a child...keep showing him you are the strong adult. -------------------- Stacy, wife to Peter, mom to Caleb, Jakob, and Andrew
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My3LilMonkeys |
Posted: May 16 2011, 04:28 PM
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Stay strong in your decision, you know it was the right one.
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3xsthefun |
Posted: May 16 2011, 05:58 PM
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I agree with what everyone else has said.
-------------------- Tina wife to Rob (Sept. 25, 1999)
mommy to Kaitlynn (11), Maegan (7) & Ryan (3.5) |
luvbug00 |
Posted: May 17 2011, 09:47 AM
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Well today has been a complete 360..
He has spent all day apologizing for yesterday...he said other things as well... I dont even know what to think at this point.. -------------------- Mya 7-1-00 |
PrairieMom |
Posted: May 17 2011, 01:00 PM
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STOP TALKING TO HIM!!! Geesh! Do we need to do an intervention? Trust me, it wouldn't take much to get my to hop on a plane at this point. But we would have to do cupcakes instead of ice cream. |
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msoulz |
Posted: May 17 2011, 01:14 PM
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Yep, again, this says it all. Change your number, don't read the texts, whatever it takes to shake this man. You can and should do better for you and Mya. This post has been edited by msoulz on May 17 2011, 01:14 PM -------------------- |
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amymom |
Posted: May 17 2011, 03:14 PM
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I agree with both of them!!! -------------------- Anne Marie Mom to Billy & Mary Beth Wife to Lee |
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