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> Six Week Appt., Tomorrow afternoon
Mommy2Isabella
Posted: Sep 20 2006, 10:28 AM
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I am thinking about getting on medication < well talking to the doctor about it.

When I talked to Sal about it he kind of was like, nothings wrong with you. Which no nothing is wrong, but I am so angry at him for not helping as much as he could. For coming home and making a mess of the house after I cleaned it and watched 2 babies all day. So tomorrow is his day off and he has an interview and a few other things to do durning the day. I asked him if there was anyway he could be home by 1:30 to watch one of the babies, he said NO ... I was LIVID.

But yet, there is nothing wrong with me. I am so sad about school, and our marriage and going back to work but at the same time I want to go back to work to get away from having to spend anytime with Sal.

I feel like our Marriage is falling apart because he doesn't appreciate me and he thinks nothing is wrong with me. When on the inside I am BAWLING because he doesn't see that I just need his help.

URG!!! Sorry this is a long rant!!!


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Posted: Sep 20 2006, 11:30 AM
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(((HUGS))))

Its normal to be going through feeling your not appreciated because you are the mom and like most moms you feel your the one that is responsible for feeding your child and changing her and everything. And unfortunetly some men think its the moms job to do everything. And then after a while you get frustrated when they dont help out at all or more... The first few weeks after a baby is born its the most stressful because your running on fumes and all you want to do is sleep so then you snap at each other... i was emotional like you and feeling sad about everything the first few weeks after i had jenna! Talk to your doctor and see what he says...


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Posted: Sep 20 2006, 11:38 AM
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Postpartum is a really hard time. You both have to adjust to your new lives. You have taken on a lot being home with 2 babies. What you are feeling is totally normal. I would talk to your Doc about it tho. Maybe some meds would help take the edge off.

and I know you don't want to hear this but...

give Sal the benifit of the doubt. He is adjusting to a major life change just like you. I'm sure he is stressed too.

This too shall pass, and things will get better. hug.gif
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Posted: Sep 20 2006, 04:37 PM
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Thank you! I know Sal is probably trying to figure things out as well, and men handle things differently than women!!

I must say PC is the best!!


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Posted: Sep 20 2006, 05:00 PM
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ITA what your feeling is completely normal, Jeremiah was SO nervous whenever he held Alyssa, he was not much help cause he was too afraid he was going to "break" her tongue.gif Men definitely handle things different and they don't always know what to do!! hug.gif hug.gif It will get better just give it some time and talk to your doctor. Let us know how your app. goes!!

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Posted: Sep 21 2006, 12:14 PM
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I'm assuming Sal works during the day, right? If so, then he prob feels (like a lot of men) that you've been sitting at home all day doing nothing. So when he gets home he should get to rest, not help out with the kid(s). It may be that there is a guy friend of his who's been through this with his wife and could give some "advice" to him for you, in a round-about way? I went through a very similar situation, and I still am 90% caregiver even when Ron is home, so I know how you're feeling. Men can be so dense sometimes! tongue.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif


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