Oh, I'm very sorry for what both you and the girl have to go through.

Actually, I was having this same thought with you...is taking her to the hospital the best solution? I mean, she might hate you even more for "throwing her" away out of your life" (at least in her mind)...

But then, I think the profesionals know what to do. Let's just hope they can boost your child's self-esteem so that she'll appreciate her existance no matter how.

Just keep reminding them that you need to be involved in the process.