need some advice..., advice please

[greatmotheroftwo]

hey everyone i just have a question for everyone. i have a 5 year old daughter who is so spoiled that i cant even send her to her room or time out cause she doesnt listen and just laughs at me and i get so fustrated cause she doesnt listen to nobody. what should i do how can i handle this situation...

[PrairieMom]

You gotta hit her where it hurts. (not literally) I mean, you have to find out what she values and take it away from her. I would maybe start taking away privilages, like TV or a favorite toy, and you HAVE to stick with it. once she learns you are serious, maybe she will change her tune a little.

Now if I could just follow my own advice... Anyone know what a 2 year old values?

This post has been edited by PrairieMom on Mar 15 2006, 04:59 PM

[luvbug00]

well on nanny 911 the other night she got a chair and every time the kids misbehaved they went into the "naughty" chair if they got up she picked them up and dropped their hinies right back on the chair. over and over until they served their time.. I've tried this with my 5 year old and it's working so far...

[luvmykids]

Try not to react, just be matter of fact. It's hard but helps with mine. Instead of being frustrated and yelling I say very firmly "Hitting is not allowed" and plunk them down in the time out spot. The more reaction they get out of me the more it seems to fuel them.

And you have to do it every single time. When she's NOT in trouble, start talking about the rules. Tell her what is not allowed and when she does it, this or this will happen. Then when she does it, it really has to happen, every single time.

And catch her being good. Praise and encourage her a lot when she's behaving well, so she sees the difference in what she gets from you when she's behaving and when she's not.

If any of that works, let me know so I can try it on my kids Just kidding, really thats the stuff I'm doing with them now.

[Brias3]

Its sounding like some limits need to be set in many areas. Not only does she need to regard you as an authority figure but at five years, she is old enough to start realizing the need to respect you as a parent. Consistency is key. Giving in to her and letting her have the upper hand leads to her not taking things seriously anymore, which sounds like what may be starting to happen. Like it or not, she needs to know that YOU are the boss. Being firm, yet patient is what works with my kids. Little to no reaction from me in accordance with their "bad" behaviors seems to alleviate the problem. What's the fun in poor behavior if you aren't really getting a rise out of Mom, right?

Another thing to remember is to make sure that discipline and corrective actions need to be consistent with everyone who is involved in that aspect with your child- be it father, grandparents, caregivers, etc. Everyone handling things the same way will teach her better than each person handling corrective action in their own way.

Good luck!