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mo0sy	Posted: Aug 20 2005, 01:34 PM
Newbie Group: Members Posts: 2 Member No.: 2,390 Joined: 20-August 05	well, i asked my 13 year old daughter if she wanted a brother or sister, and automatically she said no. i could have sworn that children usually would like the sound of children.. she loves to take care of babies and has been the only child of our family for all her life. Does anybody have any idea of why she may feel the way she does? she's begging me to not even consider, and i want to know, honestly, why she feels so strongly about this.

CantWait	Posted: Aug 20 2005, 01:48 PM
Diamond Member Group: Members Posts: 20,387 Member No.: 28 Joined: 1-March 03	Well if she's 13, then she might be just use to getting the attention all the time. Or she may be scared that if there's a little one in the house, that she'll have more responsibility. Ask her why? Really though, does it matter what she wants?? IMHO. -------------------- ~Marie, mom to Robbie, 15 and Anthony, 7 and our newest addition, Mia Eliana~ ~~I promise to forget you not, my angels in heaven being watched by our fallen heroes, Dec 23 08, April 1 09, & May 18 09~~

mo0sy	Posted: Aug 20 2005, 01:53 PM
Newbie Group: Members Posts: 2 Member No.: 2,390 Joined: 20-August 05	i know that it should be my decision, but i'm afraid she'll do something a little bit. erm.. not so good if i do have another child. she's had breakdowns ever since i got remarried, so i'm not sure what she'd do if there was another child This post has been edited by mo0sy on Aug 20 2005, 01:53 PM

luvbug00	Posted: Aug 20 2005, 02:03 PM
awhat! Group: Members Posts: 10,756 Member No.: 1,984 Joined: 6-June 05	I don't know how long you have been remarried but it sounds like she's had to share you once and she doesn't want to do it again!! Talk to her and maybe if it is somthing you want to do you can plan to have one day a week just for you and her . no baby, no husband. In the end it's not really her choise but if you want to have another I think she'd feel better knowing it won't change how you feel about her and your relationship. good luck! -------------------- Mya 7-1-00

redchief	Posted: Aug 20 2005, 06:59 PM
Platinum Member Group: Moderators Posts: 8,629 Member No.: 800 Joined: 5-October 04	You mentioned getting remarried... I'm assuming your husband is not her natural father? -------------------- Ed is husband to Lisa (since 1983) Dad to Ricky, John, Erin and Kaitlin The Administrators of the Parenting Club take trolls and violators of the Terms of Service Agreement seriously. Please report any suspicions to the Moderators. Report a post using the "report" button in the upper right corner of the offending post.

mckayleesmom	Posted: Aug 20 2005, 08:47 PM
The hair I wish I had...lol Group: Members Posts: 21,560 Member No.: 157 Joined: 4-May 03	Ok...consider some things.....Does she get along with her stepdad? Im guessing that since she had a breakdown with the remarriage that their relationship is or was strained at some point. By you having his baby...that makes you being with him an even stronger force. Could she have possibly thought that there was still a posibility or hope that things wouldn't work out with you guys? Maybe by having his baby her fears of him staying in the picture are coming true. Look at me...Im like Dr. Phil over here. -------------------- Brianne Wife to Leithan and mommy to Mckaylee (4) and Russell (3) Click here to help us grown our village http://schwartzville.myminicity.com/

gr33n3y3z	Posted: Aug 21 2005, 04:20 AM
Doin Good :~ Group: Moderators Posts: 15,274 Member No.: 822 Joined: 13-October 04	I think everyones advice fits this situation Good luck let us know how it goes -------------------- Wife to Ed (Redchief) Mom to Rick,John,Erin and Kaitlin "Believe 100% in what you see believe 50% of what read and none of what you hear"

~KARA~	Posted: Aug 24 2005, 05:41 AM
Silver Member Group: Members Posts: 900 Member No.: 915 Joined: 5-November 04	I was an only child for 9 years and let me tell you its not the easiest thing to go through!! My mom had gotten remarried when I was 8 then my sister was born when I was 9. I lived with my mom and grandparents untill my mom and step dad got married(bio dad walked out on us!) I would sit her down and ask her why she dosent want a baby brother or sister. Maybe there is a good reason! -------------------- ~KARA~ Mommy to Tatum Maddison & Kaden

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