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April |
Posted: Nov 17 2003, 08:34 AM
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Hi every1, this is my first time here and I am hoping to hear from you. I have 3 children. 2 girls 7 and 6 and a son who is 4. Every night seems to be a war zone. During the day while my girls are at school life is quiet and smooth. As soon as my girls get home from school my son just goes a bit crazy. Constant fighting between the 4 and 7 year old are quickley driving me and my husbanc insane. We talk alot, time outs are not working and extra chores do no seem to work either. I just dont know what to do anymore. The chidlren also break everything it seems. I am getting desperate. Any helpful suggestions would be appreciated.
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coasterqueen |
Posted: Nov 17 2003, 08:45 AM
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Oh gosh, I wish I had suggestions for you, but I am a first time mommy to a 14 month old. I don't even want to think about the future, lol.
I just wanted to say Hi ![]() -------------------- ~*Karen*~
wife to hubby, Ryan Douglas mommy to Kylie (9) and Megan (6.5) and furbabies Gavin, Buster, Sox, and Hailey |
5littleladies |
Posted: Nov 17 2003, 08:47 AM
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Hi April
![]() I'm sure some of the other moms will have some great suggestions for you. Hang in there-being a parent isn't always the easiest job in the world! ![]() -------------------- ~*~Jennifer~*~
Wife to Jason, Mom to Madeline, Megan, Brianna, Alyssa, Kate, and our babies in heaven-Benjamin, 8/13/04, and David, 8/01/07 Jen's Blog |
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Posted: Nov 17 2003, 10:08 AM
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Hi April! Welcome to Parenting Club!
I am a first time Mom, so I am not much help. I just wanted to welcome you and offer some hugs. I have my hands full with one, so I can imagine what you are going through. I had 4 brothers and sisters, and we did fight quite a bit when we were younger, but we outgrew it when we graduated. ![]() And, I know when we were younger, my Mom put away anything that could be broken. It wasn't until we were older that she put her knick-knacks back out. -------------------- |
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Welcome! For us it seems to matter more if we take away a priviledge. Nathan goes nuts if we do that.
Do you have a structured evening for them? Dinner, then homework, then bath, then quiet time? A structured schedule has always worked well for us because the boys know what to expect. And if we deviate from that then it is a priviledge and some of the schedule is pushed back. I would definitely say that hitting them (not literally) where it hurts has more impact then just piling on the chores. And definitely chose your battles! If they make a mess then they are all old enough to clean it up after the chaos dies down. One option is to just get rid of many of their things. Give it to charity. Tell them that if they do 'x' again then you will take something away every time. They won't take you seriously unless you do it. HUGS Julie -------------------- |
kimberley |
Posted: Nov 17 2003, 02:24 PM
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Welcome April!
i have 2 boys, 5 and 7yo, and a 2 mo old daughter. the boys fight all the time and i find the only thing that works is to separate them. even when their separate time outs are over and they have apologized, they are not to interact with each other for the rest of the night (they usually war at dinner time). they actually miss playing with each other and behave (for a little while anyways). if the fighting continues, a shopping bag of their favorite toys comes out of their room for a week. i know how frustrating it can be and i am sorry u have to go through this. look forward to reading more posts from you and hope things get a little less crazy around the house for you! ![]() -------------------- ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() The Administrators of Parenting Club take violators of the Terms of Service Agreement seriously. Please report any suspicions to the Moderators. Report a post using the "report" button in the upper right corner of the offending post. |
April |
Posted: Nov 19 2003, 06:14 AM
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I wanted to thank you for your support and suggestions. It is very nice to know and see with your own eyes that a person is not alone
![]() ![]() Thanks again!! April in TX |
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susan |
Posted: Nov 28 2003, 04:43 PM
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Anyone needing a parenting program for parents for kids for great behavior should check out "Egg-Centives" Look for it on E-Bay. It is so awesome. My kids love it. I love it because my kids are excited about our house rules again! They WANT to be good! It is just not another sticker chart. It works like this. You pick a goal with your child. You give points to the child for all positive things. Then every 6 points they get an "egg!!" Inside the egg you put yolk notes that are included in the kit. You write your own or use the preprinted ones. I also added a little treat like m&m's to the eggs. They take the positive path to the end. Then they get their choosen goal. For my 6 year old we picked a goal of a sleepover with 2 friends. With my 3 year old son we picked a rescue hero. $7.99 at target. When I tell them that I am so proud of them for brushing their teeth when I didn't even have to ask them to do it, I gave them 2points!! Then went to their chart and marked them! They beamed with pride. This has changed the way we parent!! We are reminded to seek out the positive in our kids not the negative. I am not kidding you will be amazed how the want to do it!! You are in this message are bbecause something isn't working for you. What have you got to lose? Get turned around like I did and be the positive parent |
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