Mistake?

Hello everyone, I'm new to this site and you can read up on my situation in the introductions board.

Well this weekend did not go well for me. I hired a babysitter for Saturday night to spend some adult time with a few friends from work. Well things got a little out of hand and all I remember is being woke up by my 4 year old on Sunday morning and him asking who the person was in bed with me.
I was really embarrassed and explained that it was a friend from work that needed a place to stay.

How should I explain this to my kids?

Thanks in advance.

Uhhhhhhhhhh.... WOW!!! You drove home drunk enough to not remember it? I think you need some help. You let a stranger sleep in your house with your kids?

I'm at a loss as to what to tell you other than I really think you need some help.

Well seeing as you are new to this board, I don't think I will place a lot of stock on your opinion.

But just to clarify:
My car was not in the drive way so I did not drive home.
The woman that was in bed with me was not a stranger but someone from work that has been a really good friend to me during these past several years.

I understand that this is not the best situation but it has happened and I was hoping to get some advice on how to mitigate the problem, not make it worse.

I don't think he said anywhere in this post that he drove home drunk - and he said it was a work freinds he was out with - geez, give the guy a break for a minute here

Now on to the real topic - YIKES, that is a tough one but we all make mistakes.......

It is great that you got out with some adults for usre. As for talking to your children about who was in bed.........I dont' know much about 4year olds, but I think explaining that it is a freind and she needed somewhere to stay should suffice and if the questions keep coming, just make light of it - no big deal.....gosh I don't know.

Did you ahve a good time though?

Oh, I just assumed since he went out and didn't remember coming home that he drove himself. A little presumptuous, I gu4ess.....

Yes a wee bit

Well if your 4 yr old does not ask anything further than what you already said a friend needed a place to sleep then leave it at that, if more questions arase simple short answers.

I agree 100%. Since it is a 4 year old, they may just take what you said and let it pass.

I agree - let it slide with the kids but lesson learned for you huh? We all make mistakes - hope you at least had fun...

Some advice though - get out more often then maybe you won't overdo it when you do go

Good one -

Haven't we all had nights like that????

I agree with others, if your 4yr old continues to ask questions, simple short answers. But since it is a 4yr old, they probably are just saying oh daddy had a friend over.

This may bring your 4yr old to ask if he/she can have the opposite sex stay the night... thats another battle ..

Uhhhh...... no. As a matter of fact, no. Obviously you have.....

Mr. AiT and I saved orselves for each other and took our wedding vows seriously. I can't believe more of you aren't offended by this guy's actions.

YIKES - need to avoid major arguement here - and I have raging pg hormones as well

To sum up:

Yes I have had a great time in my life, partied and had fun before i met my husband........I am not perfect, glad to know you are!

Not offended in the very least with his actions.............

Uhhhh...... no. As a matter of fact, no. Obviously you have.....

Mr. AiT and I saved orselves for each other and took our wedding vows seriously. I can't believe more of you aren't offended by this guy's actions.

This has NOTHING to do with wedding vows whatsoever.....he is not married and has every right to go out and twist off - he has been through some tough times!

Uhhhh...... no. As a matter of fact, no. Obviously you have.....

Mr. AiT and I saved orselves for each other and took our wedding vows seriously. I can't believe more of you aren't offended by this guy's actions.

I haven't experienced a night like that either. But I don't live in a glass house and have no right to judge.

And I agree that your explanation is enough.

Uhhhh...... no. As a matter of fact, no. Obviously you have.....

Mr. AiT and I saved orselves for each other and took our wedding vows seriously. I can't believe more of you aren't offended by this guy's actions.

hey now, play nice ok? we are a very diverse group of individuals. The members of this board run the gamut from the very religous types to more of a hedonistic type. The reason we are all here is our children and to learn how to be better parents and to support others. It's fine to share your POV, in fact, it's welcomed. However, you may not get mean. KWIM? I've learned a lot from those who have God as a strong part of their lives and I've learned a lot from the others as well. Open the mind, take in what you may, share what may help and if you don't have anything to give to contribute to the convo, then just go on to the next topic.


Oh and Jen, I think you and the preggo hormones need to just skip this post for the rest of the day.

This post has been edited by kit_kats_mom on Jun 4 2007, 11:07 AM

Now, on to the question at hand. You made a mistake. Many of us have done it. As long as it's not a long line of drunken nights followed by a parade of partners though the house, it shouldn't be an issue. He's too young to know what you were doing. Just leave it as you did and if he asks more questions, just answer the questions as truthfully as you can without getting into anything over his head.

Just try to not let it happen again with him in the house. I have actually pretty much quit drinking because I am a chronic worrier. What if my house caught fire and I was too buzzed to be able to save my babies etc. Save the nights of relverly for when he's at his moms.

Uhhhh...... no. As a matter of fact, no. Obviously you have.....

Mr. AiT and I saved orselves for each other and took our wedding vows seriously. I can't believe more of you aren't offended by this guy's actions.

hey now, play nice ok? we are a very diverse group of individuals. The members of this board run the gamut from the very religous types to more of a hedonistic type. The reason we are all here is our children and to learn how to be better parents and to support others. It's fine to share your POV, in fact, it's welcomed. However, you may not get mean. KWIM? I've learned a lot from those who have God as a strong part of their lives and I've learned a lot from the others as well. Open the mind, take in what you may, share what may help and if you don't have anything to give to contribute to the convo, then just go on to the next topic.


Oh and Jen, I think you and the preggo hormones need to just skip this post for the rest of the day.

But but mommy, I just can't skip it!!!!!!!!

I understand what you are saying - thank you.

Just to clarify, I am not hedonistic or weird..........

Just have a hard time with newbies judging is all

Jen...I C U. I said go. Stay away! Go eat some salt and vinegar chips and ice cream. I'm doing this out of love for you and to keep your blood pressure at a reasonable level.

Uhhhh...... no. As a matter of fact, no. Obviously you have.....

Mr. AiT and I saved orselves for each other and took our wedding vows seriously. I can't believe more of you aren't offended by this guy's actions.

Maybe before jumping on people for choices they make, you should get to know them at the very least and their circumstances.
Incredibly rude of you.

OMG I just had a bad of S & V with my sub - HILARIOUS!!!

I can't - mommy, I just can't!



This post has been edited by jenhopkins2000 on Jun 4 2007, 11:24 AM

As for telling your 4 year old it was a friend no biggie needed a place to stay.

I am new but not new just haven't wrote in about 2 years is all. But this one is getting juicy LOL.

Ok first let me say let's all place nice so we don't have to close this thread. Please. Cary that wasn't directed at you because I quoted your thread, just so you know.

I wanted to agree with Cary on her advice, but I did want to say that don't underestimate the 4 year old. My child is 4 and would be asking a ton more questions, I know she would. Let's hope your son doesn't.

And I'm glad you came here to ask for advice. That took courage knowing that some may judge you poorly. We all make mistakes, NO ONE (and I mean no one) is perfect. Although, I like to think I am. Shhh, don't tell me I'm not, please.

Ok first let me say let's all place nice so we don't have to close this thread. Please. Cary that wasn't directed at you because I quoted your thread, just so you know.

I wanted to agree with Cary on her advice, but I did want to say that don't underestimate the 4 year old. My child is 4 and would be asking a ton more questions, I know she would. Let's hope your son doesn't.

And I'm glad you came here to ask for advice. That took courage knowing that some may judge you poorly. We all make mistakes, NO ONE (and I mean no one) is perfect. Although, I like to think I am. Shhh, don't tell me I'm not, please.

We can't say you aren't perfect - you are a moderator!

Teasing!

I better get out of this or Cary is going to be kicking my butt!

Jen you are hillarious, Makes for a good Monday. LOL and yes guys she is experiencing hormonal rage lol

Just kidding SIS