Help me with a dilema

We went to a birthday party this weekend. Earlier last week I was at Toys R Us and they had great sales. I wasn't sure if the little girl would like it but I bought some Pixos thing for $10....I thought that was a good gift at a good price. She didn't know what it was but I figured she still might like it. My friend asked me yesterday if I still had the receipt because she got 2 and her aunt had already thrown away the receipt. Well.....I do have it....but I don't know if I want my friend to know that I only spent $10...kwim? So do I give it to her so she can get the $$$ or tell her that it came from TRU and she can try to return it without the receipt and let her find out there that it was $10 (although there's a chance that she won't know when I bought it, before or after sale)...but if it's reduced any more they'll only give her current price. So....what should I do??

I would say if you didn't grab a gift receipt, just explain to her that you lost the original receipt. If she really wants to take it back then she can and get whatever the current price is. I don't think $10 is a cheap gift. That's what I usually spend for my kids when they are invited to birthday parties. Good luck.

I will often buy gifts ahead of time when they are on sale, and save them up for when parties come up. So, I don't always have the receipt, and therefore would just explain that I don't have the receipt.

Since you do have the receipt, not sure what I would do. I'd probably give her the receipt. Personally, I think it was rude of her to ask for a receipt to return a gift regardless of the reason. And, she should be thankful for the gift -- it was a thoughtful gift.

BINGO!

I would NEVER, ever ask someone if they had the receipt, unless it was for clothes because they didn't fit or if a toy is broken...and in that case I would say I'd like to exchange for the same item (so really, to exchange, a receipt isn't' even always necessary in those cases). Even if the boys get duplicate presents, I never ask for one. If one is planted inside the gift then I may exchange as needed, but I would never ask. It's VERY tacky, IMO!

As far as the price...I try to not spend over $10 on birthday presents. I don't think it's cheap. As many parties that the boys go to, I can't afford more than that.

Honestly, the present you got would be perfect for duplicates anyways. When a friend comes over to play then they can share more easily. I don't see what's wrong with her having duplicate of this particular present.

What would I do? I would tell her I don't have the receipt so she can learn to just appreciate the thought behind gifts. I wouldn't care about her seeing the price. If she is a close friend, perhaps she feels more comfortable asking you for the receipt, but I still think it's tacky to ask.

This post has been edited by Boo&BugsMom on Aug 16 2011, 05:42 AM

I'm with those that think its rude. Its ok to return or exchange a gift, but I think its rude for them to tell you that they are returning it after you spent time picking it out.....I would just tell her to take it there and maybe they will exchange it.

just say you threw it away already. Its plausible, and it gets you off the hook.
However, I wouldn't personally be worried about what a friend thinks about the amount I spend. Although, any friend of mine already knows to expect something home made or something on sale from us if we are bringing gifts. I wouldn't expect anyone to spend more than $10 on a gift for my child.

also, yeah! no doubt!

Good God, I think your friend is extremely rude...if she wants to take the gift back, I'm sure she can do a bit of research to find out where these are sold and try to do an exchange without telling you.
I'd personally tell her that you didn't keep the receipt and that you're sorry that the gift you brought didn't work out for her and that's all I'd say. Let the dilemma be hers, not yours.

Yep, RUDE! Who cares what a gift cost, especially when it's something age appropriate and fun? I can see thinking someone is stingy if you bought a kid a $5 vase from goodwill LOL but this was a good gift.

I'd just do what others said...tell her you bought it at Toys R Us and they'll exchange it without a receipt. If her thought is that she wants the receipt because she wants a higher dollar value back, then she's EXTRA rude!

I am with the rude crowd here too! Her sister probably got it on sale and doesn't want to fess up either! Lol!!

rude......just say you lost it..as others have already said..

On another note if $10 bucks is a cheap gift then I am doomed. I dont spend more then $5 on a birthday gift usually and go right for the sale section ..with just me working birthday Gifts are not priority. I do get a cute card with a sweet thought or quote about the kid from our family and mya writes her own happy birthday or whatever in it.

Honestly, I think her daughter just didn't like it, when she opened it she made a face like, what in the world is this? My friend explained it to her and added, "it'll be fun". The main reason I didn't want her to know how much it was is because for her son's birthday I bought him a $20 DS game, so I spent more on him...BUT I know for a fact the daughter plays the game too.

I think I'll just tell her I couldn't find it. I don't think I'd ask for a receipt either. If we got 2 of something I'd just re-gift one and give Thomas the $ that I would have spent on the gift.

Thanks y'all!!!

I didn't read the rest of the responses, but if she is a good friend she won't care what you spent so give her the receipt, IMO. I have a friend who her and her husband have money to blow, and we don't. They give our kids very expensive gifts, and I don't do the same for their kids. I just can't. I know she knows I don't spend as much but she doesn't seem to care. If she does, she wouldn't be a good friend, lol.

I would say that I tossed the receipt. (Aren't Pixos those little pieces? If she received two of those why wouldn't she still keep it for refills?) If my child received a gift they didn't want, I would donate the gift to a charity and not return it.

Perhaps when you tell her you can't find the receipt, you can suggest she donate it to Toys for Tots or some other organization so some kid who would have nothing will get something nice this Christmas.