X-husband died, My nine year old daughter?

He died 2/22/04, my daughter was very angry with him before he died. He made lots of promises that werent kept. I dont know how I am going to handle this, when he was here he never made things easy for us.

Aww hun im so sorry for what you are going through! That must be a horrible situation for you, and you daughter. I don't have any advice for you but I can definiitly send you my hugs, and support! (((BIG HUGS))

Hugs to you and welcome to the board. I too can only offer hugs, not sure what else to say.

I am sorry to hear about your recent loss. But I do welcome you here. Losing a loved one is hard and there are certain stages that we all go through:

Pain
Anger
Denial
Acceptance

She may be in a certain spot for a while. The fact that her Dad died without her being able to get any apologies or resolution makes it difficult. I would highly recommend you get counseling for her. One on one. And when the counselor feels it is appropriate then you can both work through things together. She will get to a point where she can forgive her father for his transgressions...but it may take some time. And I think that once she can forgive him then she can be more at peace with her own life and self and move on. But I definitely think that she's going to need counseling.

I'm sure that there is a bit of relief for both of you because you don't have the drama/chaos/hurt that he caused. But it opens up a whole other realm because now you have this hole where that person was. Even if he wasn't a very good person, or had a dreadful way of communicating or treating others. He was capable of love.

Prayers for you both

Julie

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss and

i am sorry for your loss and what you are going through. maybe taking grief counselling with your daughter will bring you two through this and make you even closer. she is probably feeling guilty for being so angry with her dad and would benefit from professional help. my thoughts and prayers are with you both.