Very confused

[Mommy3]

Hello I have 3 children a girl 13 and two boys 11 & 10 my topic is about my teenager. She has a learning disability and is in a special Ed class. Whenever we are home with just me her her brothers and their father she likes to act mentally handicapped meaning if you tell her to do a chore and she refuses we tell her she can't watch tv until she does same thing we tell the boys if they don't listen now I know all kids have a problem with listening but she resorts to stomping and crying like an infant and acts as if she can't talk and bangs on stuff and I always send her to her room to calm down and she sits in her room hollering and screaming how we hate her and she hates us.basically a tantrum..she even acts like this if we asks how school is. She will respond with a grunt and I will be like "keke (that's her nickname) stop with the grunting you know how to talk I am simply asking how was school" once again I will get a "uhh" so finally I say forget it and she'll go off into a tantrum and crying so I send her to her room tell her sit and calm down. Now anytime she is in public or anyone comes over she acts very mature. I can ask her questions and get a clear response. Even if she doesn't listen and gets in trouble she doesn't throw tantrums. Yes I get the normal mumbling under the breath. I don't think she is retarded or anything I work in the healthcare field so i have been around retarded people old young middle aged you name it. I tried taking her to the doctor because I thought maybe she was so he ran through a series of tests even spoke to her teachers and they all said she never acts like this they say she is more mature than most of her class. The doctor said he cannot find anything wrong with her and she is not even 1% retarded. So I don't understand why she acts like this? I have never let her or her brothers get away with tantrums even when they were toddlers we don't hit them. Yes they have gotten the swat on the butt a few times but taking their games and tvs and mp3 players and not letting them see friends when they are bad really gets to them..so can someone help me figure out why she is doing this.. I have sat and talked to her and told her if she gets upset she can take a short walk if she likes just let us know where she will be walking and when or she can go in her room alone shut the lights off listen to her music whatever will calm her down

[amymom]

Sorry, but I don't have any advice. Good Luck figuring it out.