Staying with my Friends 15 Year old Daughter, While my Friend is out of Town

[Kirstenmumof3]

I'm having some serious problems with this girl. She is very disrespectful and refuses to do anything that I've asked her to do. Believe me it isn't much, the only things she had to do was gather her laundry and take the garbage to the garbage shed. The garbage has been sitting in the back yard since Sunday and her laundry is all over her floor. Oh and I asked her to clean up her mess from the stairs so I could vaccum. But these are not the only problems that I'm having and I feel that she is taking advantage of me because I've been sick and because I'm not her mother.

Tuesday she woke up and told me that she had just gotten sick and that she was going to go back to bed and see how she felt at 11:00. She is diabetic, so I made her test, have a little something to eat and then woke her up at 11:00. Then she told me she had a headache, I suggested that she take some tylenol or advil. Nope she was just going to wait and see if it got worse. Needless to say she stayed home from school all day. That evening I had to write a note saying why she was away from school. Yesterday she came home at 12:00 and I told her to go back to school. She refused and apparently another one of her friends skipped as well because they were chatting on MSN. Around 8:00 lastnight she informs me that she is going to sleep over at her friends house. I asked her if she honestly thought I was going to let her sleep at a friends house after she skipped school. Well apparently it was already arranged and the next thing I knew her friends mom had come to pick her up. This morning I got a call from the principal of her school asking if I knew she had been away, I told him I was aware of it. He asked me if I was aware that she was late this morning and I explained to him that she had stayed at a friends house last night. He was going to have a talk with her.

My friend is due home this evening and I honestly don't know what to say to her. Not that it will matter her daughter is like this all the time and my friend does nothing. I think her daughter has gotten very good at connying and manipulating people.

[amynicole21]

Wow. That's such a tough position to be in. Teenagers are difficult enough when they are YOURS!

[luvmykids]

How frustrating! However, I don't think you should feel bad, if she gets away with this stuff with her own mom, then obviously you aren't the problem

[Kirstenmumof3]

Thanks both of you. She's usually a really good kid when I'm around.

[mysweetpeasWil&Wes]

I would maybe skip telling the mom about her failure to do chores, because I think that was just a way of saying "you're not my mom, don't tell me what to do", but when it comes to skipping school, chatting with firends online and then going for a sleepover (and being late the next day), those are definite reasons to speak up IMO. Especially since the principal called. Just be honest and tell it like it happened. The mom can decide for herself what she wants to do about it and you can hopefully never have to watch her daughter again! You have several good reasons not to!

[A&A'smommy]

Yikes I hope you never have to stay with her again!!!

[Kirstenmumof3]

Well I told my friend what had happened and she really didn't do much. When her daughter came home from school yesterday I took the phone and computer away from her. And when I told her mom that she said that I did the right thing. But nothing else is being done and it's really frustrating for me, because I'm still living there until the 1st of November. But I can assure you I will never watch her daughter again.