Help!!!!, For those of you w kids close together

[grapfruit]

Omg. Please tell me this will get easier soon. Isabelle is NOT adjusting well at ALL. Screaming w no way to make it better except hold her. Biting (me mostly). If she gets close to Liam she tries to hit. Doing things she's not suppose to do (and knows it). She's only 13 months. So I know she doesn't get it. But I can't hold her and nurse him at the same time. And the biting!! how can I get her to stop??? I know there's no easy answer but time but I want my happy girl back.

[luvbug00]

oh she gets it..She wants your full attention and her way of saying it is to bite you.
It's an adjustment, and it's gonna take time. The hard part here is Liams special needs with his blanket and such. you can and probably already set aside some Isa/mommy time.
Obviously talking isnt gonna get you very far.
when she touches him saying "liam loves isabelle" may be the most she will get. But it enforces the connection with the two of them.
here is an article i found. There are tons more.
The key here seems to be to just give her some QT with you and your hubby without baby both alone per parent and together without baby and with baby. maybe she will get then that this is a growing family not one where she is replaced. (which is not what you are doing but she doesn't understand that.
http://babyparenting.about.com/od/training/f/jealousy.htm

[~Roo'sMama~]

It can be tough! I don't think I had it that bad with Andrew when Allie was born, but he was 20 months so maybe that helped a little. He did hit her a lot... just would walk up to her and bonk her in the head either with whatever was in his hand or just his hand. And he always wanted me to hold him when I was nursing Allie. I know it's hard, but the one thing I wish I had tried harder to do was put the baby down and hold him when he wanted me to. I tried to hold him a lot, but he was a SUPER cuddly boy before she was born, so it was a big change for him to not be the only one Mommy needed to hold. She was a pretty content baby and spent a lot of time in her bouncy seat or swing, so that helped. It will get better!

[coasterqueen]

((HUGS)) I didn't have any issues at all with my girls adjusting to each other until they got older. It was just a year or so ago when Kylie really started having issues with her younger sister. Before that there was never one that I recall.

[boyohboyohboy]

My boys are 18 months apart. When we bought andrew home from the hosp. Jakob wouldnt let me near him. If I did he cried and ran to his dad. He didnt want me to rock him or hold him and he hated andrew.
It took a good month until he let me get near him.
I think kids just have to find their own way. I kept involving him as much as I could, but he was to young to do more then fetch things. I also BF so he didnt help with feeding either.
It just works itself out.

hang in there