Need Advice on Teen Sex!, Teen Sex

[Leigh]

Hello,
I'm so glad that I found this website.I appreciate any advice you can give me.
I have a 17 yr. old son who will be 18 in Nov.
He has been going out with a 15 yr. old girl for about a year.
Recently we have found out that he has been sneaking her into his bedroom after everyone has gone to bed.
This girl just happens to be Mormon, and her father is a Police Officer!
Obviously they are having sex (I have found condoms).
I have confronted my son on a number of occasions about this and explained to him the long term effects this will have on both of them, especially her and her
religion.
I dont get much support from my husband (his father) and have been nominated the constant bad guy.
Should I call her parents with my concerns?
Last summer to keep them apart they sent her to Utah to distance her from my son, so I'm pretty sure they would do that again if they find out they have been having sex.
My son will completely hate me if I call them out and cause a split.
What should I do?
Thanks in advance!

[luvbug00]

I think you should be proud of tying to protect both of them. What happens if the condom breaks and she gets pregnant or worse he turns 18 and sex with a minor is stagitory rape and her parents press charges on him?. That could ruin his future! I would contact the parents and tell your son that he should stop seeing this girl. I don't know if i'd tell them about the sex but I wouldn't let this continue. Rather he be mad at you know as opposed to mad because he's in jail. JMO

[Leigh]

Thanks for the quick response
Yes, I've explained to him that condoms are not 100% and that he could
get in trouble once he turns 18.
This just doesn't seem to phase him!

Thanks,Leigh

[Kaitlin'smom]

besides her age an the sex issue what do you think of the girl? how do her parents feel about the relationship?

I ask becasue from what I have seen the more parents push kids the more they will rebel, 2 sisters and both devorced due to parents negitive issues with the relationships.

sound sliek all parties involved shoudl get together and talk.

[TANNER'S MOM]

Well, I don't know what I would do..

Being that this girl is Mormon and I know nothign about this religion. If you told her parents would they disown her or turn their back on her? You have to think about everyone's future..

One thing I would do is.. Fix that window. Make sure no one gets in or out..lol

But you know he is 17.. and he does have a bright future ahead of him. I have a daughter who is 15 and I would want to know.. I will say that.

Sex doesn't make him a bad kid, just a true teenager. And using condoms is the way society has taught him to be safe.. so be glad he is doing that. I know it is not fool proof they do break.. but at least he is trying to be safe??

My advice is.. what is right for one family.. may not be right for another. Religion, and family values is different.. You just have to do what you think best.

Mel

[Leigh]

Thank you both for all the advice.
I think his parents have strong reservations about their
relationship. They were forbidden to see eachother (her parents) for awhile.
Of course that made them want to be together all the more.
I don't think her parents would disown her,but I'm sure she would probably
harbor alot of guilt from them. They had a minister talk to her awhile back.
I don't want to go to battle with the Mormon church, thats for sure.
I'm just so scared that she will end up pregnant, and my son will get into trouble.

Thanks,Leigh