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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 06:56 AM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
Ok Around Christmas we are announcing to our families that me and Marcus are getting hitched! I have been talking to my sister on the phone a few times already and she doesnt know yet but she keeps saying to me that she feels marcus will propose soon( HEHEHE) anyways she said she is driving down from Prince George to be there for it and that she better be the maid of honor and if not she will cry and be mad at me. Ok this is my issue. I dont want her to be mine and i feel she does not deserve that title. Why? well because she has done so much to hurt me. when i was pregnant with jenna for the whole first trimester she begged me to have an abortion and then when i was past that point told me i better give her up for adoption because i wont be able to handle it as a single mom and made me so stressed and made me feel like a piece of crap! Then she accused me of sleeping with her ex hubby( her daughters dad) and that i wanted to be with him... WTF is that all about! And she uses me as a babysitter and bank when she was a single mom. GRRRRR. I want Marcus's sister to be my maid of honor. She has been there for me in many ways and i always could count on a "supportive" shoulder when i need to talk. She has done more for me in the 12 months i have known her to the many years i have known my sister! Plus if it wasnt for marcus's sister there wouldnt be a marcus and me:) And to add my sister have been married 3 times and i have been a part of none!!!!she never asked me to be her maid of honor or bridesmaid in any of them and niether jenna...so im a little bitter...LOL so i am goign to tell her when we announce the engagement but how would you go about doing it in my shoes?
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luvbug00 |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 07:05 AM
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awhat! Group: Members Posts: 10,756 Member No.: 1,984 Joined: 6-June 05 |
ITA with you. Being a maid of honor isn't about blood. It's about the person who has been there for you the most in your life. Who's been helpful to the groth of your relationship with your FH and giving you advice and support. I think Marcus's sister has earned that role from what you have said.
-------------------- Mya 7-1-00 |
Kirstenmumof3 |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 07:06 AM
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Calm and Tranquil! Group: Moderators Posts: 9,565 Member No.: 189 Joined: 23-May 03 |
I would just tell it like it is! You don't want her to be your Maid of Honour because you've already chosen someone! I'm so happy for you!
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Kaitlin'smom |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 07:46 AM
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Graceland Group: Moderators Posts: 23,956 Member No.: 32 Joined: 5-March 03 |
If your anything like me you dont want conflict, however in this case I would simple state the facts (all you listed or at least some like well you got married 3 times and you never asked me to be a part of it, ect) and ask her why she would think she deserves to be Maid of Honor. From what I have read of her in the past she would be lucky to even be invited. She has no right to try and claim that title or to make you feel bad if you dont pick her. I say go with your gut and ask Marcus sister and tell your sister if she asked I already have a maid of honor.
-------------------- Di ~ mommy to Kaitlin wife to David
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lisar |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 07:50 AM
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Yes it is I.... Group: Members Posts: 11,727 Member No.: 1,760 Joined: 20-April 05 |
I totally agree. |
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Insanemomof3 |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 07:53 AM
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Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 3,003 Member No.: 117 Joined: 10-April 03 |
I would just tell her how it is. Tell her how you feel....Let her have it for once. You are such a nice person...I think you need to lose the nice girl for a minute to let her know how you feel.
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DansMom |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 07:55 AM
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kids keep you young! Group: Moderators Posts: 6,895 Member No.: 223 Joined: 22-July 03 |
She's manipulating you. It's especially telling that she's never asked you to be her maid of honor with three chances to do so. I think you can remind her of that fact if she gets huffy.
-------------------- Tracy, George and Daniel (11/25/02)
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Mommy2Isabella |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 08:16 AM
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Gold Member Group: Members Posts: 2,917 Member No.: 3,075 Joined: 9-January 06 |
Tell it like it is, like most have already said!
-------------------- Jessica
Wife to Salvador 12.23.05 Mommy to Isabella 8.8.06 & Isaia 1.2.08 & Ian 8.28.09 |
bunkie |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 08:47 AM
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I agree with everyone and especially this quote. Good luck to you and Congrats!! -------------------- Hardcore Steelers Fan Army Wife to Matt & Mom to Army Brats Emily (2) Natalie (1) And 3 angels never forgotten |
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Calimama |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 10:01 AM
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Ruby Member Group: Members Posts: 12,615 Member No.: 5,538 Joined: 17-October 06 |
I agree with the above posters.. I'm sure she'll get over it.
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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 10:57 AM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
you dont know my sister. she loves to hold a grdge for a looooooooong time! -------------------- |
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luvbug00 |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:01 AM
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awhat! Group: Members Posts: 10,756 Member No.: 1,984 Joined: 6-June 05 |
I think with the jenna comments ( regardless of wiether she was still in the mommy belly spa or born) Would be enough for her to be extremely lucky your speaking to her at all!
-------------------- Mya 7-1-00 |
Kaitlin'smom |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:03 AM
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Graceland Group: Moderators Posts: 23,956 Member No.: 32 Joined: 5-March 03 |
sounds like my eldest sister. with all the BS she has given you, I worry that if you did cave she would ruion it for you, its not her day and if she is anything like my eldest she will try and make it about her. really its about you, Marcus and Jenna becoming a family I would only surround your self with those who care most about you, and if she cant handle not being MOH then its HER problem. -------------------- Di ~ mommy to Kaitlin wife to David
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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:40 AM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
oh i wont cave. im asking marcus's sister for sure! I just feel if i say no and tell her who is then she will have a bird and then it will come down to me not inviting her because i know she will cause a huge scene. I just dont know how to drop the biomb that she is not the MOH but she can come still if she wants... -------------------- |
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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:42 AM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
oh i know. she really hurt me in that respect. And if i would of listened to her and believed her then jenna would not be a part of my life... -------------------- |
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mysweetpeasWil&Wes |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:46 AM
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I'm so sorry Shelly. That sounds awful. ITA with just telling her that she had three chances to ask you to be in her wedding, and she didn't, so what goes around comes around. Or however the saying goes! Yeah she can hold a grudge, but do you really care at this point? Give her the option to come or not and then leave it at that.
-------------------- Rae SAHM to Wil (4) and Wesley (2) ~ Wife to Richard 10/20/01
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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:50 AM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
nope i dont care expecially because she is all the way in british columbia...LOL. -------------------- |
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mysweetpeasWil&Wes |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:51 AM
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Well there you go!!!! GL sweetie. -------------------- Rae SAHM to Wil (4) and Wesley (2) ~ Wife to Richard 10/20/01
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A&A'smommy |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 11:56 AM
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Praying For Spencer Group: Moderators Posts: 29,769 Member No.: 243 Joined: 11-August 03 |
I think having Marcus's sister as your MOH is SOO wonderful Shelly!!! I hope it goes well telling your ummm sister how it is, she definitely does NOT deserve to be in the position... maid of honor is an honor and she has been horrible to you!!! Anyway I'm SOOO excited for you guys!!!!
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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 12:00 PM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
I think Marcus's sister will be so touched she will bawl when i ask her:) -------------------- |
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A&A'smommy |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 12:14 PM
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Praying For Spencer Group: Moderators Posts: 29,769 Member No.: 243 Joined: 11-August 03 |
awwwww -------------------- |
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Kaitlin'smom |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 12:17 PM
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Graceland Group: Moderators Posts: 23,956 Member No.: 32 Joined: 5-March 03 |
yep make sure you bring a BOX of tissues with you when you ask. I think your both gonna need them. -------------------- Di ~ mommy to Kaitlin wife to David
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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 12:43 PM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
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Kaitlin'smom |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 12:59 PM
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<passing you a tissue> already need one huh? -------------------- Di ~ mommy to Kaitlin wife to David
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mummy2girls |
Posted: Sep 14 2007, 01:39 PM
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Thinking of you Spencer! Group: Members Posts: 12,708 Member No.: 156 Joined: 4-May 03 |
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