![>](style_images/1/nav_m.gif)
Home | Contact Us | Community | News | Resources | Entertainment | Shop | Parenting Blogs | ![]() | Please visit our sponsors: |
Home |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Welcome Guest ( Log In | Register ) | Resend Validation Email |
|
![]() ![]() ![]() |
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 05:48 AM
|
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Hi everybody! I really need some advice on something so I went to the ol' search engine and here i am!
It's about my two DDs, ages 12 and 14 and puberty (ahhhhhhh!!). My eldest DD i guess you could say is a bit of a late bloomer. She has precious little in the way of breasts and hips. Her younger sister on the other hand is in full fledged puberty, hitting a growth spurt over the past year and sprouting breasts and moving up to "real bras". My 14 year old is tramautized because last week her younger sis started her period. She has yet to get hers. She came to me in tears because her sister is "becoming a woman" before her. I try to console her, telling her her time will come soon enough and there is nothing wrong with her. I explained that all girls have diffferent time tables with puberty, Even sisters. What else can I tell her? She is having a really hard time. Any similar experiences anyone can share? Thanks, i sure appreciate it! |
luvmykids |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 06:25 AM
|
![]() Diamond Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 19,113 Member No.: 3,038 Joined: 3-January 06 ![]() |
I'd start off by telling her she isn't missing much and enjoy what time she has left before it starts
![]() |
Teesa®© |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 08:35 AM
|
Gold Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 1,416 Member No.: 73 Joined: 1-April 03 ![]() |
Something similar happened between my mother's daughter and I [I can never bring myself to call her S*****].
She was so ticked when I got my period before her, I was 9 and she didn't get hers till she was 17!! ![]() ![]() I don't know how she got over it/dealt with it, and honestly, I couldn't give a crap. I guess that doesn't help you at all. I think you said ALL the right things ![]() Give her some time, and if she's like any other teenanger out there, what's a Life-and-Death-Situation-I-Wish-I-Was-Dead-and-I'll-Never-Be-Able-to-Show-My-Face-at-School-EVER-Again today, is total WhatEVER tomorrow. Maybe you can perk her up a bit by going to a movie together or getting a manicure. Totally assuming here, that as a teenanger, she wants to be seen in - *GASP!* - PUBLIC with her MOM ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 09:14 AM
|
||
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
yeah, they have always been sorta competitive with one another but no more than the average sisters I think. My eldest DD has always been pretty self conscious about her development. Her body is still quite child-like and she hasn't really grown out of the training bra yet. Meanwhile lil sis is wearing an A cup and is even a bit taller. The whole period business was sorta the straw that broke the camel's back on that one. I agree though that she should enjoy this time! ![]() |
||
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 09:21 AM
|
||
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Ha ha. Yep, you've seemed to capture the teen dynamic perfectly. ![]() |
||
momofone |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 09:36 AM
|
![]() Be Kind ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 1,294 Member No.: 11,030 Joined: 1-May 07 ![]() |
The teen years are tough with all the changes they go through. Maybe you could do something special for the 14 yr old like go shopping and lunch to lift her moods. Good Luck!
|
luvbug00 |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 09:44 AM
|
||
![]() awhat! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 10,756 Member No.: 1,984 Joined: 6-June 05 ![]() |
![]() ![]() I agree special mom daughter time may help -------------------- ![]() Mya 7-1-00 |
||
Teesa®© |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 09:59 AM
|
Gold Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 1,416 Member No.: 73 Joined: 1-April 03 ![]() |
I do have a teenanger, he's a boy though. On the other hand, I have a niece who's a total Drama Queen! EVERYTHING, and I do mean *everything* is the total end-of-the-world. She's in it for total effect and attention. the worse it is, the better for her.
She stayed here last year for March Break and I swear having her here was the end of MY world!! She told me two stories of note. One started, "What would you do if you found out your nephew was touching your niece?" Well, I FREAKED!! It took an HOUR of questions to find out the TRUTH: she ticked off her brother and, in frustration - which I TOTALLY understand now - he punched a wall. I was like, ?!?!?!?! And HOW is this someone "touching" someone else???? I told her to watch her mouth and how she words things. 2nd story: "Did you know that my mother hits me?" Again, after an hour or so of questions, I found out that she picked a fight with mom - my SIL - and when SIL was getting upset, she dared SIL to hit her. Still more questions... no, SIL hadn't made a fist nor even lifted a hand towards her. I told her that if she EVER lied to me again that she would NEVER be allowed in my home again. She hasn't been back since. I did talk to SIL about it, I felt she had a right to know what garbage her DD is saying. She just laughed it off. But, ummm.... about 2 months ago??? SIL told me that her DD had told Grandma, Grandpa, DD's dad [they've been separated for years due to abuse] and anyone that would listen, that SIL beats her. Well, Grandma went up one side of her and down the other, totally tearing her a new one in the process. Grandma doesn't take crap from anyone [when she found out her DD - my SIL - was being abused by her DH, Grandma hunted him down and chased him with her car's snow brush!!] and she made it VERY clear that DD had better NEVER open her mouth to talk trash like that again. Despite how it sounds, the family isn't as horrible as it seems ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Well, that went totally OT, eh? ![]() ![]() |
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 11:45 AM
|
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Whoa, Teesa. YIKES!
![]() ![]() |
Teesa®© |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 04:36 PM
|
Gold Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 1,416 Member No.: 73 Joined: 1-April 03 ![]() |
I'm glad you have a good relationship with your DD. It can be hard to come by once they hit the teen years.
My DD - who's 8 now - and I have a great relationship now.... and I sure hope it continues into her teen years *crosses fingers* |
Kirstenmumof3 |
Posted: Mar 18 2008, 06:48 PM
|
![]() Calm and Tranquil! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Moderators Posts: 9,565 Member No.: 189 Joined: 23-May 03 ![]() |
![]() ![]() -------------------- ![]() |
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 19 2008, 04:10 AM
|
||
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Ha ha, yes. Give it a few months and I am sure it will be my younger daughter who will be the envious one. ![]() |
||
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 19 2008, 04:38 AM
|
||
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Sorry to go a bit off topic, but ladies bras at 10?! ![]() |
||
Kirstenmumof3 |
Posted: Mar 19 2008, 06:40 AM
|
||||
![]() Calm and Tranquil! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Moderators Posts: 9,565 Member No.: 189 Joined: 23-May 03 ![]() |
![]() -------------------- ![]() |
||||
austins mom |
Posted: Mar 19 2008, 07:11 AM
|
||
![]() Bronze Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 363 Member No.: 19,839 Joined: 29-January 08 ![]() |
I agree. Well said. Man I am happy I have a boy. |
||
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 20 2008, 04:30 AM
|
||||||
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Yea. My daughter complains about being a late bloomer but I would have to think it would a lot harder in the long run being the first one in the class to be wear a bra rather than the last. Naturally, she doesn't see it that way, of course. ![]() |
||||||
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 24 2008, 07:11 AM
|
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Thank you so much for the help, everyone! My daughter and I did go out for some "mother-daughter" time over the weekend (shopping, etc.) and it went really well. She seems to feel a lot better about things.
|
Teesa®© |
Posted: Mar 24 2008, 10:44 AM
|
Gold Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 1,416 Member No.: 73 Joined: 1-April 03 ![]() |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Breeana13 |
Posted: Mar 24 2008, 01:39 PM
|
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Yep! But I'm sure she will be due for another mini-crisis in... oh... any minute now.
![]() |
Breeana13 |
Posted: Apr 14 2008, 07:09 AM
|
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Hey, everybody. UPDATE!! My eldest started her period yesterday. She was quite happy about it... we'll see how she feels about it after a few months. lol Anyways, just thought i would let you all know...
|
momofone |
Posted: Apr 14 2008, 07:12 AM
|
![]() Be Kind ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 1,294 Member No.: 11,030 Joined: 1-May 07 ![]() |
![]() |
Teesa®© |
Posted: Apr 14 2008, 09:21 AM
|
Gold Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 1,416 Member No.: 73 Joined: 1-April 03 ![]() |
YAAAAAAAAAY!!
You think she'll be utterly mortified to find out that you just announced that to the world?!?!?! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I won't tell anybody ![]() |
Breeana13 |
Posted: Apr 15 2008, 10:27 AM
|
||
New Member ![]() ![]() Group: Members Posts: 14 Member No.: 20,163 Joined: 17-March 08 ![]() |
Heh... indeed! ![]() |
||
![]() |
![]() ![]() ![]() |