Have you ever made a friend

but couldn't stand their child?

There is lady that moved in about a couple weeks after us. She is a single mom in the military and she has a daughter who is an only child. The mom is super super sweet. A couple days before school started the little girl came to the house and said her mom needed a favor. I went over and her mom explained that she had signed her daughter up for daycare (she is 10) and it fell through. The daughter didn't want to go to the youth center because she doesn't like the organized activities. The mom wanted to know if I could just keep an eye out for her daughter after school....Not really babysit, but just be someone she can call and check in with. Sometimes she comes over to do homework with Mckaylee afterschool.

These are the things I find annoying about her.

1. She is very bossy....I notice that Mckaylee tries to avoid her, but hasn't said why...I think this is the reason.

2. When she comes over after school she keeps ringing the doorbell...she can step outside with Mckaylee to talk to someone and the door closes...she will ring it..I know its just out of respect, but its driving me nuts....Just come in..you are hear anyways.

3. Mckaylee usually walks over to get her before school so they can walk together. The other day she showed up here first. I had it on MTV because that is the only channel the kids don't mind me watching with them and its a way for me to get out of watching one of Russ's stupid cartoons like Bachugan. I wasn't even paying attention but Lady Gaga's pokerface video came on and she asked me "don't you think this is a little innapropriate to let your kids watch"?......Um...whos house is this? I will decide what my kids can and can't watch.....and they weren't really watchng it anyways.

4. When she is here and I dicipline my kids she will make comments about it. If I ask them to clean their room or pick something up and they don't do it right away she will tattle on the by saying "didn't you tell so and so to do this"...Drives me nuts...I'm not blind..I will figure it out by myself and handle it myself.

5. I usually give my kids about an hour before they have to start homework....The other day she told me that I should make them do it right after school.....Not your business.

6. If I give my kids a snack or something she comments on what I'm feeding them....

7. The other day she told me I had too many flys in my house.....You think? If you want to figure out how to get rid of them..go ahead. My house is clean and they still stick around.




I know most of this stuff is petty, but her little comments and stuff are starting to rub me the wrong way.

OMG that would drive me NUTS!!!!!!! And yes, I have a friend I really adore but her little boy is BAD and MEAN. He's "friends" with Andrew. She has an older daughter the same age as Thomas and she was like that too when they were little....I don't understand it it's so weird. Neither parent is mean or rough...but both kids are/were like that at this age. So strange. Tim gets so mad and asks every time he knows we've been together if the little boy bit Andrew or hit Andrew. But we are good friends with the parents....what can you do?

Well...you can certainly tell she's an only child, can't you???

I have, a few times, had a friend whose children I could not stand. One in-particular right now who I love talking to, but whose kids are extremely destructive and snotty. We have refrained from inviting them over to our house because of it. Ugh.

I have also ran into the opposite...a child whom I adore whose parents are extremely annoying.

I have a friend that I adore, and Ashley likes one of her kids but not the other one. That makes it even tougher because she can't really invite one over without the other.

And, there is also another little girl that is super sweet that Ashley likes, but I don't really care for the parent. That's tough too.

That little girl has the same personality as my 12 year old cousin, she's an only child too. She interrupts adults speaking, will make inappropriate comments that are completely uncalled for, you name it, she does it. The only thing you can do is ignore it (but unfortunately ignoring my cousin makes it worse.)

LOL! Sounds like she will make a GREAT babysitter one day.

Seriously though, she sounds very mature, responsible, respectful, and to her mind she probably finds it really odd that there are different rules in her home than in yours.

My father was pretty abusive when I was younger, and it wasn't until after my parents separated and I was able to observe other families in action that I realized that not every family had a father like that.

She's probably going to be the kid in her early teens that makes comments like "The OTHER kids don't have to do this, why do I?" and give her parents grief for the well-mannered behaviour they probably tried to instill in her, evident by the respectful behaviours such as ringing the doorbell. As annoying as it is, at least you don't have to worry about her barging into your house at innoportune times!!

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This post has been edited by Hillbilly Housewife on Aug 17 2011, 05:02 AM

My son has a friend who was like that as a younger child - telling me what I should and should not let Jake do, etc. Drove me nuts!! He is now 13 and is very respectful, polite, and a kid who does what he thinks is right and does not follow a crowd - will walk away from a situation that he doesn't want to be a part of (wish mine would do that). He is not an only child but his only brother is 10 years older.

So hopefully that girl will end up the same way as I see this boy heading - it's all good! He is a friend that I hope my son keeps.

Annoying as it is, I'm sure she thinks she's being helpful. I'm sure you could tell her in a nice way that you don't need it Next time she reminds you that you told someone to do something or gives you a suggestion about how things go you could say "Thanks, but I've got it. You just be the kid" or something. It's what I tell Kylie when she's bossy.

I do run into this though, and I hate it. There are a few sets of parents and kids that I adore one and can't stand the other. What I really hate is when a kid is an awesome kid but their parents are awful and because of that my kids can't go over...one poor little boy has been asking Colt to spend the night for three years now. We've had him over, but he really wants Colt to stay a night and I just can't do it because of his parents. Makes me feel sorry for the kid.

This post has been edited by luvmykids on Aug 17 2011, 05:51 AM

hah! She does sound annoying but she also sounds like a little adult, a little too mature for her age. Sounds like she is probably just a mini version of her mother who obviously monitors what she watches very closely, and what she eats. I'm sure she is just trying to be helpful, maybe next time she makes a comment just remind her that you are Mckaylee and Russ's mom and she is their friend and while its good to care for your friends, it's not good to act like their mom.

I do have a friend that I LOVE dearly but her children drive me insane, they are SO bad and bless her heart they wear her out. I don't think it would be so bad if her oldest (3 1/2) wasn't so mean but Autumn generally gets beat up when he's around, she doesn't let him get away with it but still she should have to fight him to stay off of her. I hope he gets a little easier

This post has been edited by A&A'smommy on Aug 17 2011, 06:53 AM

thats the thing....the mom seems more laid back then the kid. Also...this little girl is about 200lbs and she is only 10. She will tell me I shouldn't let my kids eat x,y and z....and then pull out an unhealthy snack and start eating it right in front of me 2 min after judging what I gave my kids....

thats the thing....the mom seems more laid back then the kid. Also...this little girl is about 200lbs and she is only 10. She will tell me I shouldn't let my kids eat x,y and z....and then pull out an unhealthy snack and start eating it right in front of me 2 min after judging what I gave my kids....

that's really weird!!!

Our neighbors, whom we love, have the worst kids in the world. He's actually our lawyer and our friendship has suffered b/c we won't allow our kids to play with them anymore. We saw some behaviors in our kids that we didn't like after they played with them and it has all stopped over the past 6 months. These kids were much younger than our kids anyway.

After re-reading this I should add something. I didn't mean the 'only child' comment to sound so negative. It's just that some kids do make being an only child quite a bit more obvious than others. I have met awesome only children (one of the little girls I watch, is one), but then I have met some kids who really do fit the stereotype...kind of like this one. That is what I meant by it, so I hope nobody took offense to it.