I am having a little problem, with Laila

Ok, so here is the deal:

I work full time. I leave before she is even awake in the morning. And this is a very good thing because when i am with her I can't move an inch away from her, put her down to do something. For example last night I had a dentist appt. SO I took her into my room to brush my teeth and I put her on the floor to rinse my mouth and she screams like I have seriously hurt her. From the moment I walk in the door I have to be holding her, touching her, whatever. I seriously can't move an inch or she will lose it! If we are playing upstairs and I walk away to say something to Jack or Tom and she can't see me that second she freaks. But during the day she is NOT like this for Tom at all thank god. She is independant, walks around all day plays perfectly fine and never cries with him at all.

I know she misses me and loves me but I cannot do anything unless I carry her with me. I tried not picking her up at all and jsut letting her gfigure it out but she will just freak out crying and hang on me if I am trying to make my point.

Jack was attached but nothing like this.

Howver, she goes to bed wtihout a peep and sleep all night etc.

Anyone have the same thing or any advice??????????? It makes my time at home with her less than pleasant most times.

On weekends when i am home all the time she is much better, more independant and not upset much at all.........

Raygen is the same way. When she is with Gene she is little miss independent. But when I am home, she is all over me and wants me. Sometimes it just drives me insane. It has gotten better though. I just dont give into her every time she wants me. She will eventually stop it.

Good luck though.

I am sure she misses you. I can imagine that being separated is hard on both of you. She's probably not like that on the weekends because you are there all day. It may just take her some time to realize that you will always be there after work and eventually she will relax and not freak out if you are out of sight. I don't have much advice other than I, personally, don't think I would force the issue and just give her the security that she needs right now. I know some will probably disagree with me and say she is manipulating/playing/testing you ... but I wouldn't be willing to go that route at this age. I would continue to reassure her. There's plenty of time to teach them to be independant. Again, that is just my personal opinion.

I am sort of with you on this one too - and we all know that I would be the first to say she is testing and manipulating. I think she jsut wants to be with me.......

Do you think she might be thinking if you are out of site, you might be gone, like when you go to work?
I wonder if you played like some hide and seek games, is she old enough to do that? Something that she can see that you can be out of site and still be there when she finds you again..or maybe like a peek a boo game where you are around a corner to start and then make it so that she is in one room and you are in the other..maybe if you started with you and Jake and she was your partner and then became Jacks partner?
Just grasping at straws here.....

Both my girls were the same way and Megan still is to a lesser degree. They would be fine at school or daycare, but as soon as I get home it's superglue themselves to mommy time. I have no advice. I just try (and I mean try, which is difficult, lol) to understand that they just miss us and are trying to tell us they need us.

I am wondering if it has anything to do with the fact she does not get to see you when she wakes up. I have noticed when I get to spend a few minutes with Kaitlin in the morning she is less clingy in the evening than when I dont get to see her and just kiss her goodby while she is sleeping.

Oh god, I could never even try to leave the house when she was awake - you have no idea what she would do. Alos I leave an hour before she is awake..........

Oh god, I could never even try to leave the house when she was awake - you have no idea what she would do. Alos I leave an hour before she is awake..........

I thought the same thing, however with it being an hour that makes it harder. What about little good morning video she can watch just after getting up? that way she 'sees' you and knows you will be home later.