Dr Phil is having a debate on public nursing

It's more of a feel-good feeling like you getting a back rub.

You can get a backrub from a massage therapist, and not get arounsed - yet you come home and your DH gives you a backrub, you can be aroused.

I had issues with this exact thing when I was breastfeeding... it felt good. Not sexual good - just.... good. I thought it was a bad feeling, I didn't want to think that I was being turned on or something.... which I wasn't - it was that same feel-good feeling from, for example, getting a back-rub.... I just didn't know what was going on, I didn't have any information and was too shy to ask anyone about it, so it helped me <quit> bf-ing.

And yeah - it releases Oxytocin. Which helps the uterus get back to pre-pregnancy size quicker. Explains why for the first little while, when breastfeeding, you can feel contractions. At least, that's what my doctor had explained to me...

That's how I wanted to say it. Your body releases the oxytocin while BF and it gives you and your baby the "drug" feeling as I like to call it or the "feel good" feeling. It's more of a calming feeling, not a sexual arousal feeling. Although I have actually heard a few very rare cases of feeling an actual sexual arousal, but they were able to 'handle' it and still bf.

This is a reason I truly believe in nursing your baby when they are getting shots and there are studies out there that support this, because if you are nursing your baby while they get shots they are more likely not to cry as much because of the oxytocin being released, etc. Very interesting stuff! Kylie never hardly cried when I nursed her and she got shots.

I am not a nursing mother now.. my kids are alot older. But in my family nursing was as normal as changing a diaper.. I was raised by a man.. and he never made a comment about my aunts or cousins nursing.. I can remember my dad being around a cousin I had nursing.. and I remember him asking her.. Patty are you comfortable w/ me in the room.. and she said sure. And he was fine.. and we were all good.. But I remember the respect he gave her more than anything.

Nursing in public doensn't bother me.. big chested little chest.. covered or not. It is not SEXUAL.. at all. I don't care if my husband looks at a nursing woman.. IT is not sexual.

Woman who find offense in seeing a woman feed her baby.. are woman who are uncomfortable with there own bodies and sexuality.

To cover or not to cover.. in public or not to me is whatever the woman is comfortable.

I am a heavy chested woman.. and when my milk came in there was not alot I could hide.. but I did my best.. I figure if I am in a restraunt.. do you want my baby to eat.. in a normal postition or scream and cry to the top of his lungs and make everyones meal awful.. or do you want to act like someone.

We talk about being DISCREET.. I think sometimes it the other people who need to be DISCREET.. with there comments and stares.

I have raised my kids to be respectful of breastfeeding mothers.. Tanner's babysitter breastfed in front of him.. I would often pick him up and the baby was attached and open. You couldn't see much really.. she was a pro breast feeder. Of course he had some questions.. and said at first he didn't know if he should leave the room or not.. and I explained to him to what makes him comfortable but it was just a baby eating.. nothing bad. And that if he wanted to talk to Mrs Brandie about it.. and what makes them both comfortable I would help him.. and he said No.. he just wanted to know it was ok with being there. And of course it was. The other kids have seen people breast feed of course.. we have answered questions.. and we have talked. They know that is how they ate etc. Nothing SEXUAL.. We talk about private parts and area's to children.. and I think they see that as a private area.. but I explained that there were two ways to veiw it.. and that when a baby is involved all he see's is food. A nurising horse or cattle.. dog cats they don't hide. We are higher in the food chain.. why should we.

As for the funny feeling.. arousal etc. I think of it this way. God has designed our bodies different. The calm good feeling is what helps you bond with your bady. It is a different feeling all together. Breastfeeding.. like childbirth is not always pleasant.. can sometimes be painful.. And like childbirth God made our bodies to release hormones to make things more pleasant and more tolerable... that is all it is.

If someone has so much time to wonder if the mother feeding the child sitting a row away is getting a funny feeling.. she needs to get a life..lol

Sorry this got so long..lol

Amen sista girl!