Dr Phil is having a debate on public nursing

Friday on Dr Phil they are discussing if people should be allowed to nurse in public.

I cant see why not if your covered
Something to stir the crap up i guess
It should be interesting to see what his point of view is on it tho.

oh that went on for 12 pages on my old debate board.. I too think if your covered I don't care..

Covered or not, you are feeding your child, not flashing anyone.

I'm not going to debate this issue but I just want to clarify. I hope most people understand because it is a very beautiful thing and I wish I could've partaken in it. But I would cover myself up personaly because I don't want some immiture teenager getting all happy looking at my esposed breast. Also I am aware that some people don't want their children to see exposed breasts but for me the #1 reason not to expose is I'm too shy to just let it all out.

PLEASE note that all my examples use the word I or myself thease are my opinions based on ..well.. my personal comfort

Yes, I agree...I'm too modest to whip out my boob in front of anyone and everyone, but I did NIP (restaurant tables and all)...I just made sure I was covered for my own personal comfort.

My response wasn't meant that I thought those who said cover up were mean or anything. It was MY opinion. And I also would cover up. I have lovely reduction scars. Franken-boobs.

This will be interesting!

Just for laughs---when we were visiting my mother and father in law in jersey a few months ago. I was trying to nurse tripp with them in the room and he was squirming under the blanket and I was having a really hard time keeping him under there. My father in law--who's from Italy says to me, "just take the blanket off in Italy women just nurse anywhere and everywhere it's not seen as nudity"

I was like, uh no!! I don't really want my mother and father in-law to see my boob!!!!!

Why oh why do shows do these debates? They always turn ugly because, just like religion and politics, you won't change other's minds. Plus, hosts tend to book people at extreme opposite ends of the spectrum so no real debate can actually take place. Give me a debate between 2 moderates and it could be worth watching.

Heh heh... I'm interested in this too...

I live in an old age home.... where it will be hard for me to nurse in public, mostly because the people who live here PAY to live here, wheareas I don't, since DH and I work here.... but tif they start complaining... lol

Anyhoo - I'd have to say I'd have to cover up for personal comfort - I don't like being stared at, and some people are just to rude not to... but maybe I should't even bother to cover up, just whip it out a few times to shock some of the old farts...

The woman on the Pro- NIP side is a member of the bf board at another site I visit. She said they filmed her for 8 hours straight and she worries that they are going to edit it so she looks like a tyrant. I hope not.

oh boy I wish I had DVR it I would love to see this. I NIP all the time but you never saw anything, not that I was shy about it, or worried what others thought I just wore clothing that was easy to NIP with and no one would know. I actully got a nice compliment when I was nuring Kait once at the sitters her Best friend told me 'wow your the most descreat BF I have ever seen"

I hope this is more on the positive side, we dont need more reasons for women not to BF

ITA! I can't imagine Dr Phil putting down either side, really. He does a good job of presenting both sides equally.

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I can't say I agree with that . But i very much agree that I do hope that this doesn't dissurage BF because it's soo good for the kiddies.

Weeeelll.... I could see him making the woman seem TOO MUCH. He can sorta discreetly make fun of her.... both women really.... he has a way of humor that could be irritating sometimes.

I can totally see him say something like.... would you go into the bathroom to feed your baby from a bottle? Then WHY would you want HER to go into the bathroom to breastfeed her baby?

or something like: your baby sitll gets the milk whether it's covered up or not... so what's the difference?

lol

dunno... I like him, and his quirky sayings

Well, when everyone else goes out of their way to not offend me in public, I will set my babies needs aside to make them comfortable as well.

That would entail everyone who talks with their mouth full, to stop. Everyone who talks on a cell phone, to stop. Anyone with any flab hanging out of the top of their low-rise jeans, stop. Everyone should cover their butt floss, put their toilet paper rolls the way I prefer them (that would be the sheets coming over the top rather than under), stop cursing, quit with the bad perms, stop showing belly buttons, quit already with the bad roots, stop using slang, stop wearing red shoes, stop carrying ugly purses, stop wearing glasses and for the love of Peter, stop having blue eyes!

Ok, I'm totally teasing but my point is, no one goes out of their way to make me feel comfy in public, I feel no need to bend to their personal wierdness either...especially when my child is hungry.

This post has been edited by kit_kats_mom on Oct 7 2005, 06:48 AM

Cary you have a very good point.

I love ya Cary... you crack me up!

Thanks. It just boils down to "you can't please everyone all the time". If you don't like it, don't watch. Exactly the same way that I look away when I see someone with super long fingernails. They gross me out so I just look away. Easy peasy. It's a total non-issue IMO

Sing it sisters!

When I was nursing I could NOT cover Tristan or Demetri up. They got WAY too hot. They would start sweating so bad, and they could not breathe. When I had to nurse in public, I just kept my shirt in a way that my boob was covered, and my babies were happy. It doesn't bother me at all for people to see me, but that is just ME. If someone was offended, then I would just try to keep covered best I can. Hey, my kids were hungry, I had no where to feed them in public so they just had to deal with it. My kids were more important than people who get offended by everything in the world. JUST MY OPINION. Not meant to be taken rudely in any way.

There is a mom at Ice Skating who does it and I think it is soooo sweet! She is also discreet about it so it's not like she's flashing anyone. She wears loose shirts. I also think how brave she is and I wish I were that way. I always fuss around with a blanket. It's so sweet because her little one is 14mos and a tiny little thing. She'll just walk up to her mommy and make a little noise to tell her and has a little snack. Keegan tends to get sidetracked too much and looks around or talks in the middle of feeding so it would never work for him. I'd be hanging out all over the place.

I have never been able to nurse in public!! I hate it! In the beginning, M would just pop off all the time from too much milk and expose me, now if anyone comes near or he hears something, he's all over the place!!! he pulls blankets off too. no discretion here. I have made it work though and were still going at 6 months plus. I think that discretion is key. I have a friend who just leaves her shirt up forever while her toddler decides if she's done or not. It was interesting to hear the anti-bf point of view, but I wanted to shoot her the whole time.

I watched it, and I didn't nurse Jason, but I have NO PROBLEM with people NIP. I thinks its fine. It doesn't offend me and I wouldn't want them to go to the car or the bathroom.

That lady got me so angrey because she just kepy saying "its not attractive" I would have said to her "your two tone hair isn't attractive, but if we were in the same restuarant, I wouldn't ask you to eat in the bathroom, so I don't have to look at your hair"

as if "being attractive" is the point of nursing