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Posted by: BAC'sMom Aug 28 2007, 08:34 AM |
Just a thought ![]() |
Posted by: HuskerMom Aug 28 2007, 09:09 AM |
I was thinking about that too! |
Posted by: 3xsthefun Aug 28 2007, 09:11 AM |
You know I was thinking the same thing. I don't really think they belong in the general forum. But that is just my opinion. I don't really have a interest in the topics myself so I think it would be nice to have a seperate forum. |
Posted by: PrairieMom Aug 28 2007, 10:00 AM |
I agree. or in the very least label the topic as a debate or "hot Topic" so that people that don't want to participate can avoid going there in the first place. I for one enjoy "hot topics" and view them as an opportunity to learn about other people's views and cultures. I live in the midwest, there is very little diversity here, so there is very little opportunity to learn about this stuff IRL. |
Posted by: Calimama Aug 28 2007, 10:13 AM | ||
Great idea!! ![]() |
Posted by: Crystalina Aug 28 2007, 10:46 AM | ||||
I agree. Like a Debate Forum. Go in at your own risk and leave the debates there. ![]() |
Posted by: Anthony275 Aug 28 2007, 10:58 AM |
oh please do this |
Posted by: Mommy2BAK Aug 28 2007, 11:00 AM |
![]() Now, why in the world would we need that? Just teasing. |
Posted by: PrairieMom Aug 28 2007, 12:17 PM |
I don't really know if it would solve anything. I think sometimes people are just looking for a good fight. We have to get our mommy frustrations out somewhere. ![]() |
Posted by: luvbug00 Aug 28 2007, 12:22 PM |
Oh yes PLEASE!!!!!!!! i love a healthy tat for tat ![]() |
Posted by: Insanemomof3 Aug 28 2007, 01:06 PM |
I love debates, and I love Jennifer posts. I am all for a debate forum. |
Posted by: luvmykids Aug 28 2007, 01:11 PM |
I've seen some boards where the debate/controversy forum is like our P&I, a certain number of posts are required to log in. The point of that is you don't get random people posting just to cause trouble, like trolls sometimes do. |
Posted by: moped Aug 28 2007, 01:11 PM |
Good idea, HOWEVER........if we wanted a debate forum we would go another wensite.....ya know what I mean????? Can i be the monority and state that I am against the idea - this is not the reason I joined PC. |
Posted by: Crystalina Aug 28 2007, 01:16 PM | ||
Ohhhh. Good one! ![]() |
Posted by: PrairieMom Aug 28 2007, 01:28 PM | ||
Well, yeah, but if it is in a locked forum, then can't you just not go in there? I don't know, I feel that good healthy debates are educational, and that it helps me be a better parent not only in letting me talk in an adult manner with peers so I don't loose my mind, while helping me learn about other people, which can give me insight into ways I would want to raise my child. |
Posted by: holley79 Aug 28 2007, 01:37 PM | ||
There are plenty of debate websites out there. These websites are on other parenting boards. This board was fine when I joined and I would like for it to go back to the old ways. I vote against the controversial forum. |
Posted by: Insanemomof3 Aug 28 2007, 01:39 PM |
Ok, you vote no on the forum, that is fine. BUT. if there was a specific forum for that...just stay OUT of that particular forum? JMO |
Posted by: 5littleladies Aug 28 2007, 01:45 PM |
I might be wrong but I think something like this was suggested in the past and was vetoed because where you have debates, you have frustrations and hurt feelings and everything else that comes along with that-it just often makes for a very unpleasant atmosphere all around-it will bleed onto the other boards. This forum was designed to be for parenting-for supporting each other through this wonderful, and sometimes not-so-fun, journey with our children. Call me closed minded if you want (but believe me-I love a good debate as much as the next person!), but I would really love us to stick with the whole parenting idea. ![]() |
Posted by: Crystalina Aug 28 2007, 01:45 PM |
I can see where some don't want the forum but at the same time the threads will not stop. Someone will always post a controversial thread whether we like it or not. I think if there were a specific forum then if the thread were started in the General Discussion forum then a mod could move it to the Debate forum. If the person who started the thread does not have enough posts to get in (if it's a locked forum) then the thread is either deleted (since the topic starter can no longer respond) or they just lose out replying to it altogether. That would be a chance they take starting the topic in the first place. Either that or the topic starter can have the choice of whether it gets deleted or moved (since they can not participate in the thread they started) and if someone else wants to re-start the topic they do it in the right forum. |
Posted by: Crystalina Aug 28 2007, 01:49 PM | ||
Yes, but I don't see how we are stopping that the way things are going now. kwim? The hurt feelings are still there and it's making it ugly in GD where newbies, I'm sure ,gravitate. If it gets ugly in a debate forum it's almost expected and does not really reflect onto the rest of the board. The mods will just have to make sure that the discussions stay put. I, personally, don't take things to heart but it's obvious that others are passionate about certain topics. |
Posted by: 5littleladies Aug 28 2007, 01:50 PM | ||
I totally agree-I just wish we could avoid the dumb things altogether. ![]() |
Posted by: MommyToAshley Aug 28 2007, 01:57 PM |
I am open to entertaining the idea of a hot topics forum or debate forum, but I really don't think it will solve anything. If someone has problems following the rules in a general discussion forum, I think they would have even more trouble following the same rules in a forum that is meant for debate. But, like I said, I am open to the idea and trying new ideas. Let me discuss it with TLCDad. |
Posted by: PrairieMom Aug 28 2007, 02:04 PM |
At least if it were in a locked forum it would be out of the public eye. Not all hot topics are are un-parenting related, we can fight about parenting techniques too, anyone want to talk about cloth diapering or breast feedeng? ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Posted by: luvmykids Aug 28 2007, 05:42 PM | ||
ROFL ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Posted by: Insanemomof3 Aug 28 2007, 07:48 PM | ||
LOL I have seen LOTS of debates on those topics in the 4 years I have been on here. ![]() ![]() |
Posted by: kit_kats_mom Aug 28 2007, 08:24 PM | ||
BTDT not interested...but I'm always up for a good circ fight. ![]() ![]() |
Posted by: Hillbilly Housewife Aug 29 2007, 04:25 AM | ||||
I've suggested it to the mods before, and the idea was rejected. I've resuggested the idea. Jen - if you don't want to go into that forum, don't.... that's all there is to it. As for the topics being hot\not - I think that certain people post\respond to stir up MORE trouble, and those people will no doubt follow those controversial posts to continue their attacks. It don't matter where the topics are posted, there will be a clique to follow them. But at least, they'll have made a choice to go to the other forum, open the posts and reply. It won't be in their face and irresistible |
Posted by: TheOaf66 Aug 29 2007, 07:45 AM |
if you're going to make a forum like that then I would put a disclaimer on there that they are about to enter a debate styled forum and are entering at their own risk in addition to the certain amount of posts. Would this forum still be monitored by mods? |
Posted by: coasterqueen Aug 29 2007, 07:48 AM | ||
I agree. I also think it would be monitored by mods in the sense that there still can't be personal attacks and any violations of the TOS. Right? ETA: I wasn't so sure a forum like this would be good, but now I think it would. That way if someone goes into the forum and reads the posts they can't get upset or say they are offended. It would be a debate forum and you have to know that others aren't going to have your opinion going into it. It may alleviate a lot of problems for sure. |
Posted by: Crystalina Aug 29 2007, 08:05 AM | ||||
Exactly. That way some members cannot say other members are always starting controversy, members can post what they like and there really should be no reason for a post in a thread wondering why the thread was started. And by saying this I by no means think those members are wrong or that the topic starters by any means are wrong. I understand both sides and IMO a debate forum would separate the two different kinds of members. If you do not like those topics then you don't go in. If you are a person who does not mind reading them or starting the thread then now you would have a place to do it without feeling like an instigator. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Posted by: Kirstenmumof3 Aug 29 2007, 08:22 AM | ||
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Posted by: TLCDad Aug 29 2007, 09:14 AM |
I am against the idea of a debate forum for 2 main reasons: 1) There are plenty debate only websites out there. 2) Even if we make it a password required forum, users will tend to base judgment on someone because of what they said in the debate forum and then use it against them in other forums. Its just not worth it, I have seen too many websites including tech forums that open up a debate forum to latter regret it and have to suspend or warn people for discussing things outside the private forum, etc. Now with that said, if enough people want something like this, then obviously it would be in the best interest of this website to accommodate them. I am just very uneasy about it. I am open to ideas that can make this not be a problem, etc. |
Posted by: A&A'smommy Aug 29 2007, 09:17 AM |
I personally think its a bad idea!! |
Posted by: Crystalina Aug 29 2007, 09:30 AM | ||||
I think we may all see this board differently. I think the boards has loosened up a bit (either that or I've conformed ![]() Either way, if PC opens it or not will be hunky dory with me. ![]() |
Posted by: Crystalina Aug 29 2007, 09:33 AM | ||
How about a poll? ![]() |
Posted by: luvmykids Aug 29 2007, 09:47 AM | ||
I've thought of this too...I'm on the fence as to wether or not people can leave the things that get said in a debate there. |
Posted by: BAC'sMom Aug 29 2007, 10:01 AM | ||
Good idea ![]() |
Posted by: Boo&BugsMom Sep 2 2007, 02:44 PM | ||||
I agree. I personally do not think it would solve anything. |
Posted by: Jackie012007 Sep 2 2007, 03:29 PM |
I like the idea but I don't know if it will work. That was my big complaint, it seems like every time I signed on there was a 5 page debate thread, with 34857349753489 people responding - so naturally out of curiousity I'd look. Then I'd end up reading and see members go back and forth and it's really irritating. And I can only think it looks bad for people looking to join the board, to see people going at each other. I joined a little over a year ago and it was pretty intimidating anyways. I think putting the debates in a separate forum would make it so they aren't all in your face, and then if the poster/reader chooses to go there and gets mad, it's their funeral and their own darn fault. But then again TLCdad is right - it makes more work for the mods and some people may not be able to separate debate from the rest of the board and then there is always the risk of a nasty debate spilling into the main posting area. I guess the fairest way is to have an annonymous poll - I think something needs to be changed but will be the first to admit, I don't know what that thing is. There just needs to be a change to make many more comfortable here - I know you guys say to just ignore it but it's human nature to be curious and get sucked in, especially when you see your friends getting bashed. I feel badly that I contributed to the mess on this board but I didn't do it out of malice, it was out of concern for others who felt they couldn't speak for themselves and being sick of hearing people complainj but do nothing and out of my own discomfort. I hope no one looks badly on me now or worries I'm a trouble maker, I've never done anything like that before and as tempting as it is to jump back in with the new thread about the controversy, I'm taking a bit of advice and staying out of it ![]() |
Posted by: Bamamom Sep 2 2007, 06:46 PM |
I like the idea alot but would rather it be called a Hot Topics forum than a debate forum. Debate makes it sound all controversial when alot of times these discussion start tamely enough and then become heated. I like the idea of it being a locked forum and the mods moving issues that become heated to this area - then people can avoid them if they don't want to be sucked in. Yes this is a parenting forum but I think that has become a really convienient excuse for locking threads and complaining about topics. Obviously other things are discussed here - look at the other forums (humor, relationships, P&I, etc. We can't just decide to use that (that this is a parenting board) as an excuse to censor conversation. (Well I guess you can but I think you shouldn't.) The board has changed - but that's life. As new people join things will change. AND THAT'S OKAY. Change is good for us. It pushes us to grow and develop as members of society. I personally kind of like it when things get heated because it makes me think and so often as a stay at home mom the biggest mental stimulation I get is whether we'll eat grits or oatmeal for breakfast ![]() ![]() As for forming opinions about people in this forum and then letting those opinions bleed over into other discussions - that happens already. I have opinions about alot of people on the board - some good, some bad. You can't avoid that - it's a community and people are going to form opinions about each other just as we do in daily life. I don't think adding this forum will make that any better or worse. |
Posted by: ~Roo'sMama~ Sep 2 2007, 07:32 PM | ||||
dito to that. ![]() ![]() |
Posted by: redchief Sep 2 2007, 08:16 PM |
As one who has taken part in many past controversial topic debates, I have to say that I don't think that creating a forum will make a great deal of difference. People who take a topic very personally in the general (or any other of the PC forums for that matter) will do the same in a forum dedicated to hot or controversial topics. I don't really think that a designated forum will create "the perfect place" either. Many topics that turn to hot debate start innocently enough to be in any forum. I just think that we all have to remember that you're not going to change anyone's way of thinking in any great way regardless of your personal position or power of reasoning, and in a group as diverse as this one, you have to accept that. Secondly we must all remember that another's personal position is not necessarily a reflection on that person as a good citizen or human being. Finally, we should all take pause anytime we see an opinion in a thread that stings us personally. I often find that my position, and therefore my response, is tempered by time when I see something that really hits me hard in my belief system. I'm not saying that I am changed by the time I take, only that the phrasing of my responses are more often less caustic when I give myself a little time to reflect and realize that the person(s) offering the counter-opinion are people I respect, and that the respect has been built over time and shouldn't be weighed against a single offered opinion or position. And that's all I have to say about that. |
Posted by: Hillbilly Housewife Sep 3 2007, 06:23 PM |
lol how about a "difference of opinion forum" then? LMAO! ![]() ![]() |
Posted by: mysweetpeasWil&Wes Sep 25 2007, 03:12 PM | ||
These were my thoughts exactly. Not worth it IMO. And I can just see people in GD saying "well in the Debate forum, you said xy&z and it hurt my feelings". ![]() |
Posted by: jcc64 Sep 26 2007, 06:12 AM |
I'm with the guys on this one (Ed and Rod)- pretty much for the same reasons. I know I'm not always "in the know" when the s&%# hits the fan around here, but by and large, we're a well behaved group by message board standards. We've had our lapses here and there, feelings have been hurt, but when you get right down to it, the board culture demands a definite level of civility not generally found elsewhere on the web. I really credit Rod, Dee Dee, and the other mods for keeping everything under control, and I'm sure it's no small task. Creating a debate forum is another level of administrative hassle for them, and I don't think it will resolve the issues at hand. |
Posted by: Katrinadoodle Nov 4 2007, 12:12 AM |
Goodness, yes. I adore debating (well, fighting, but "debating" sounds more polite ![]() Whenever I join a new site that's usually the first place I head to! |