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| Posted by: suzykrul Oct 10 2007, 08:43 AM |
| I am the mom of a 6 year old, 4 yeard old and 7 week old. I have always been able to handle myself well with my other oldest children when they were newborns. I dont remember ever feeling overwhelmed. But since i had my daughter i find myself thinking I cant do this. I am so tired, so stretched thin. My oldest just started kindergarden, am im acually getting mad at myself for having a baby when i was so close to getting my oldest 2 in school. I LOVE being a mom, but i dont know how much I can handle. My 7 week old seems to cry and fuss more than she eats and sleeps. When im already tired, helping one with homework and trying to feed everyone it gets so hard. I have zero support except for the dad....but he works long hours himself. How do I deal with i really dont know if im strong enough anymore. |
| Posted by: luvmykids Oct 10 2007, 09:05 AM |
 A new baby is exhausting. Try to keep in mind that this too will pass. Any possibility of the baby and your 4yo napping at the same time so you can as well? It wouldn't hurt to talk to your dr about postpartum depression, I can't say you have it or don't but it doesn't hurt to ask about it |
| Posted by: suzykrul Oct 10 2007, 09:11 AM |
| LOL....my 4 year old nap.....never. It seems that if i fall asleep during the day and wake up to get my daughter from school i feel worse. Groggy. Also nothing in the house gets done. The baby wont nap any place other then her swing. I feel bad her being in there for such a long time to nap. It seems like im going to feel like this forever. |
| Posted by: gr33n3y3z Oct 10 2007, 09:25 AM | ||
very true after a year old with my children it was called what nap lol And even if I got one I was worse off then before. Hang in there and see how you do in a few weeks and maybe talk to your Dr and see what they say it wouldnt hurt |
| Posted by: boyohboyohboy Oct 10 2007, 09:58 AM |
| suzy, you are a carbon copy of me! i also have a 5 yr old that just started kindergarden, and my 2 yr old is very needy and has health issues, and now a newborn who has issues as well. i know how you feel. my dh even works long hours, and we have no family in the area. i can tell you what i do is try to find at least one night a week where my dh can watch the kids, and he takes them to the park or just outside for a walk and i can have some quiet time. sometimes its not till sat. and sometimes its not more then twice a month, but those recharge times help. i take a bath or read a book, or hang out here uninterupted.. pm me any time |
| Posted by: A&A'smommy Oct 10 2007, 10:04 AM |
| I agree if you can try to get your husband to watch the kids and take a walk, go get some ice cream, ride around and listen to music... whatever you can to get a little mommy time to yourself. If you feel like you might have ppd then please call your dr. |
| Posted by: wcs40110 Oct 31 2007, 07:23 AM |
| I wish i was there to help you out. just remeber you have just as much, if not more of a job as DH and you need your time for youself too. |
| Posted by: Kirstenmumof3 Oct 31 2007, 09:25 AM |
| You sound like you are in the same boat I was in when I had my third. It's easy to get overwhelmed when you have three children that need you attention. Is there someone (friend, family) that can come and help you, not just with the children, but to make meals, clean the house and of course entertain the other 2 children while you focus on the baby and getting some rest for yourself. Just remember you're not superwomen. Do what you can and try to explain to the older 2 that you just need a little nap and put a movie on for them. If your symptoms persist or become worse I would definately recommend that you see your doctor immediately! Take care of yourself! |
| Posted by: jcc64 Oct 31 2007, 04:21 PM |
| I'm on board with a mom's night out. Put aside some regular time for yourself at least once a week. If you don't get an occasional break, you're gonna burn out. You're entitled to feel exhausted and overwhelmed- you've got 3 young kids depending on you. Who wouldn't be wiped out?! If your feelings start to interfere with your normal functioning for too long- then you need to pay attention. If you can't sleep when you're exhausted, or you sleep constantly, if you lose interest in important things like your kids well being or your own, if you just can't dig yourself out of your own negativity, then you have to consider PPD. A bad day here and there, is very different than a relentless, unremitting depression. You'll know the difference, and if you find yourself in that place, by all means, see a dr. Good luck and feel free to pm me- btdt. |