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| Posted by: mylittleonesimon Jan 13 2007, 11:07 PM |
| How are you? I am Leonardo from Argentina. I am 32. Really, I love being father. My little one is almost 1 year old and I think that I am very weak to stop him. I mean, when is enough to say: Hey my baby don't do that!!! I love Simon( my bundle of joy) doing things and I'd not like to frustrate him...so what would you do in my shoes? My wife wears the trouser at home( LOL!!!). Jokes apart, she can say: Stop much more time thatn me. When Simon cries, it hurts me a lot. Have a nice day.- |
| Posted by: PrairieMom Jan 14 2007, 04:40 AM |
| Welcome! I am deffinately the "mean parent" in my home too. I don't have a problem listening to my children cry. I know that I have to make the rules as a parent, not the child. As hard as it is to listen to, they have to learn that you are the boss now, before they get to old! it just gets harder to set rules the longer you wait. |
| Posted by: CantWait Jan 14 2007, 09:00 AM |
| <~~~~~~~ mean parent here also. However I think of it this way. If you don't disipline your child early on, then you're going to regret it later on. You don't have to be mean and say "no" to everything, but certainly if they are destroying things, getting into trouble, or about to harm themselves then it's time to step in. Welcome to PC |
| Posted by: redchief Jan 14 2007, 11:48 AM |
| I don't think either of us are the mean parents. We love our children very much and we always would like them to be happy, but not at the expense of their safety or morals. That's where you need to draw the line. Since your little boy is only 1 year old, I think it's a little early to be worried about whether or not he misbehaves a little. At this age he really has no concept of wrong and right, and he's still getting used to being in the world. This will not always be the way, though, and I found that discussing and planning discipline with my wife has worked well. We discuss together things our children have done wrong, and our reactions to it, then decided on the best course of punishment for future similar instances. This ensures that no one will be surprised at what happens, and also maintains consistency, which is also of paramount importance. Kids start grasping the concepts of cause and effect very early in their development, and consistent discipline reinforces those concepts. Remember, we aren't just trying to make sure our kids are safe and righteous, we are preparing them for adulthood. If there are no consequences to bad behavior as children, imagine their surprise as they get fired from that first job for being constantly late, or try to understand why they have to go to jail for writing bad checks. |