No prep course for us. But the counseling really did help get some things off our chest. DH had some fears about marriage, I had some hangups with my past...We got it resolved and moved into a healthy relationship (marriage). Have fun!!! 
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| Posted by: mummy2girls Jun 5 2008, 06:34 AM |
| before getting married who had to go through the marriage prep course... Me and marcus is starting our course next week with our pastors.. marcus says to him... we watched liscenced to wed last night is it goign to be like that because if so i must bring some armor...GOOF! Our pastors are pretty cool people so im looking forward to it im just nervous! |
| Posted by: lisar Jun 5 2008, 06:39 AM |
| I did. I thought it was funny. We kinda had fun with it. We had to take a compatability test and if it came back wrong then the preacher wouldnt marry us. It came back okay obviously. But me and dh joked constantly in that class, I think the preacher was anoyed with us by the end of the 6 weeks. |
| Posted by: TheOaf66 Jun 5 2008, 07:37 AM |
| Jennie and I got to do ours at home via cassette tape (we lived 4 hrs away from where we were gettin married) It was kind of a joke |
| Posted by: luvmykids Jun 5 2008, 07:39 AM |
| We did, the way our church does it is in an 8wk class and at the end you both take this "quiz" and it's passed on to whichever pastor is going to marry you so he knows what else you might need to get straightened out one on one. |
| Posted by: mom21kid2dogs Jun 5 2008, 08:46 AM |
| We did. It's required in the US Catholic Church. we went to a pre cana weekend. It was actually very nice. Not only did we get a much needed break from all the hassles of planning a wedding, but the weekend was informative, spiritually enlightening and well planned. We had already talked about most of the issues presented (we dated for about 18 months before we got engaged) but it was fun to meet other couples and newlyweds whom we could relate to. |
| Posted by: boyohboyohboy Jun 5 2008, 09:57 AM |
| we did and ours was so much fun..we really learned a lot about each other.. and also took the compatability tests...we found out that we were just about the same on everything.. and it was a good thing, it made sure you talked about all the important things before getting married.. we really enjoyed ours, and it also made us feel closer to the pastor who married us... |
| Posted by: mysweetpeasWil&Wes Jun 5 2008, 12:30 PM |
| Does couples counseling count? No prep course for us. But the counseling really did help get some things off our chest. DH had some fears about marriage, I had some hangups with my past...We got it resolved and moved into a healthy relationship (marriage). Have fun!!! |
| Posted by: luvbug00 Jun 6 2008, 02:54 AM | ||
that sounds like what's gonna happen to lars and myself! lol! It should be fine and who knows what you may dicover about each other that you don't already know  |
| Posted by: Cece00 Jun 7 2008, 04:39 PM |
| We werent married in a church & we were married by a non-denom pastor so luckily we didnt have to...DH and I arent into religion. |
| Posted by: redchief Jun 8 2008, 05:17 AM |
Heheheh... Pre-Canaa weekend = Catholic version of Shotgun wedding.  We went to pre-Canaa. I'm curious about the compatibility tests some alluded to... What's the point of that? I've taken such tests with Lisa and failed miserably. I wonder if that's some churches attempts to curtail divorce? |
| Posted by: luvmykids Jun 8 2008, 05:26 AM | ||
I dunno....ours didn't have that, but it did have lots of questions about things like finances, etc just to point out the areas where more discussion might be needed BEFORE getting married |
| Posted by: ~Roo'sMama~ Jun 8 2008, 07:19 AM |
We did pre-marital counseling with the man who used to be the youth pastor at our church. He had some good insights for us, and we just had a good time meeting with him.  |
| Posted by: mom21kid2dogs Jun 9 2008, 03:48 AM | ||
We took the Myers Briggs Personality Inventory. Self reported, self scoring. I don't recall that it was was supposed to determine compatability so much as point out personality tendencies and how those influence personal actions and reactions~kind of a Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus kind of thing. What the heck is a Catholic shotgun wedding? |
| Posted by: lesliesmom Jun 9 2008, 05:33 AM |
| My first marriage I got married in the Catholic church so we had to go through one of those. It was a joke. It was a friday-saturday "retreat" at a hotel with about 12 couples. We all had assigned rooms - girls with girls, guys with guys but by the end of the friday night session we had all agreed to swap rooms and be with our SO's. I remember one question was how does your SO squeeze the toothpaste and how do you feel about it? i.e. from the end or grab in the middle and squeeze. My second wedding was in Vegas so we didn't go through any of that. |