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Posted by: Kirstenmumof3 Apr 16 2007, 04:07 PM

She just found out today that she will not be getting the internet back in her room. My DH thinks that she just needs to earn it back and I told him that I don't want her to have the internet in her room anymore. So since I'm the bad guy, she's not speaking to me. Why can't DH just agree with me for once or at least talk to me about important decissions. He does this all the time and I end up looking like the bad guy! I hate that Emily won't talk to me. We went shopping yesterday and had a really good time. This morning was great and then WAHM this happens! She's very stubborn so I know this will not be over soon!

Posted by: msoulz Apr 16 2007, 04:16 PM

I am so sorry you have this on top of the other stuff going on. I'm sticking with you - she can use the net elsewhere and the DH needs to get on board. I too am the family wet blanket and I anticipate lots of flack from my son in the future but we make the decisions we believe are best for them and I feel pretty sure we are right on a vast majority of the time. They'll figure that out when they are 30 or so . . .

Hang in there Mom!!

Posted by: ediep Apr 16 2007, 04:33 PM

I agree with you 100%. I wouldn't let my kids have computers in their room after I saw that episode of Oprah where that boy was getting these online pedifiles after him.

Posted by: amynicole21 Apr 16 2007, 04:38 PM

You did the right thing. She needs to learn that there are MAJOR consequences to her actions. Stick to your guns!!

Posted by: luvmykids Apr 16 2007, 05:15 PM

I'm sorry. I know you feel like the bad guy but in reality you're doing what a good parent should do in a case like this. Hang in there!

Posted by: mckayleesmom Apr 16 2007, 05:25 PM

She will get over it eventually. She might hate you for a while, but she will at least be safe in the meantime. I agree with you 100 percent.......

I would print out a bunch of pictures of kids who have been lured away on the internet and stuff and see if that changes his opinion and gets him on board with you.

Posted by: mckayleesmom Apr 16 2007, 05:27 PM

Also, she has already done something irresponsible on the internet and Thank goodness she sent those letters to herself and not somebody else playing a joke. That could have gotten her into trouble.

Don't worry Kristin.....you are doing the right thing. You might be the bad buy right now, but you will be the bad guy with a daughter who is safe and out of trouble.

Posted by: lisar Apr 16 2007, 05:36 PM

Good luck. I remember doing that when i was younger.

Posted by: Kirstenmumof3 Apr 16 2007, 06:08 PM

Thanks everyone! She wouldn't say goodnight to us, I always give her a kiss and a hug and tell her that I love her. But she couldn't get to her room fast enough! I know I'm doing the right thing, but this is breaking my heart!

Posted by: Calimama Apr 17 2007, 06:58 PM

QUOTE (CJ'SMOM2002 @ Apr 16 2007, 06:08 PM)

Hang in there hun. She may never thank for you for it, but she'll be safe and that's what matters.

Posted by: gr33n3y3z Apr 18 2007, 03:28 AM

she will get over it and I agree no kid should have a computer in their room especially when they pull stuff like that.
Hang in there hun she will come around and she will see her wrong doing

Posted by: Kirstenmumof3 Apr 18 2007, 04:18 AM

Thanks everyone! She is now talking to us, but still thinks some unjustice has been done to her! I think she may start to realize what she did and why we are doing this!

Posted by: Kaitlin'smom Apr 18 2007, 05:14 AM

I know its hard but you did the right thing. I will never allow Kaitlin to have internet in her room, we will keep a commom place for that.

and to your DH I just cant see how she can earn that one back.