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| Posted by: Our Lil' Family Apr 28 2011, 05:36 AM |
| Ok y'all. It's been a long time since I've had a 1 year old and apparently I'm living "the 2nd one is totally different" because I did not have this much trouble with Thomas. I spend the majority of my day saying NO NO Andrew! For the same things....over and over and over and over. For example....our dvds....they are in a drawer and no matter how many times I correct him, AND pop his leg/hand (no debates, yes I spank him and I will continue to) he goes right back to it....sometimes within a minute. I really think he KNOWS what I mean because when I see him, call out his name, say NO NO...he stays put, but the minute I start walking over to him....he stops and starts to walk away. BUT that doesn't keep him from doing it again. Like I said, Thomas got into things but not repeatedly like this. OY! HELP! When will this get better? |
| Posted by: my2monkeyboys Apr 28 2011, 05:54 AM |
| I also spank, so no tomatoes here. I also am going through the '2nd one is so different,' and I have found that with Waylon time-outs work fairly well. He tends to really push his boundaries lately - pushing, being ugly to someone, using bad words like shut-up, intentionally making messes with a drink, etc. For this type of thing I will try a pop on the hand or butt. If he does it again, he gets sat on the couch or chair for a few minutes with no toys, tv, snacks, etc. That seems to really bother him the most right now. Maybe give that a try? |
| Posted by: boyohboyohboy Apr 28 2011, 06:25 AM |
| My Andrew also breaks the mold in our home and has been my toughest child. Spanking doesn't work for him. He responds to my taking things away and time outs better. I hate to admit also to save myself the stress, I've moved things like the DVD drawer just to not have the fight. |
| Posted by: A&A'smommy Apr 28 2011, 06:41 AM |
 I TOTALLY understand what you are going through! Autumn was HARD compared to Alyssa. I could not leave her in a room by herself because she would climb on whatever she could, or pull out EVERYTHING I told her no soooo many times! I can't tell you that when he will get it but I can say stay consistent and because he will eventually get it. Autumn is MUCH easier than she use to be.. I spank also! |
| Posted by: Our Lil' Family Apr 28 2011, 07:39 AM |
| I'm sure I'll be able to use other methods later but I can't really put him in time out yet, too young to understand. And taking away won't work yet either (although it works well with Thomas). He's listening a little better today......so far, it's still early! ha |
| Posted by: coasterqueen Apr 28 2011, 08:48 AM | ||
Same here with Megan and she's still like that.  Spanking never worked, she would just defy you more, so we stopped. Didn't like doing that anyways. Taking things that really mean a lot to her have usually worked. |
| Posted by: ~Roo'sMama~ Apr 28 2011, 09:45 AM |
I remember going through that with both of mine... the dvd's were a favorite of theirs to mess with too.  Honestly, no matter how many times I said no, and spanked them or sat them in a chair, they just kept doing it. It was one of those things that they eventually grew out of, but nothing seemed to work until then. It's hard to be consistent when it doesn't seem like you're getting through to them, but I still believe it's important to keep doing what you're doing even if it doesn't look like it's working. Hang in there, he won't keep doing it forever!   |
| Posted by: Our Lil' Family Apr 28 2011, 11:56 AM | ||
I was searching for the "like" button! LOL Thanks! |
| Posted by: Maddie&EthansMom Apr 28 2011, 01:49 PM |
| Yes! Don't give in--keep doing what you are doing or you will regret it later. Take it from someone who knows. Man, with Ethan--I get SO tired of hearing my own voice and repeating myself that some days I just give up and say to h___ with it! But, consistency is key (as always.) Hang in there---it's such a hard age! |
| Posted by: mckayleesmom Apr 28 2011, 10:42 PM |
Mckaylee is my child...so enough said with that . I didn't think it would ever get better... But it did. Now she just argues with everything I say.  |
| Posted by: moped Apr 29 2011, 10:08 AM |
| Yeah Laila does the same sort of things. I try hard to not say NO all the time, but it is hte first thing that comes out of my mouth....LOL I just gave up and move the things out of reach, so sort of set them up for success not failure.....make sense? |
| Posted by: mummy2girls Apr 29 2011, 11:44 AM |
| Oh heavens thats Breanna all the way. Jenna was such a good baby/child. Yes momma, ok momma, etc. Never got into anything and would play for hours in her room. Breanna well is the polar opposite of her big sister. She gets into EVERYTHING!!!! Throws all the books out of her shelves in our livingroom, movies etc etc etc. all the toy bins...empty. The dayhome kidlets do this as well. My only form of sanity was... move the things out of reach. Then they are not tempted to touch them and wont keep annoying the heck out of you.... I moved all teh books, movies and such... the only thing i couldnt was the toy bins... But its a working process. |
| Posted by: Our Lil' Family Aug 18 2011, 01:49 PM |
| Annnnnd, we're right back here again....now it's climbing! The dining room chairs, the bar stools (TALL bar stools at that), anything he can, he climbs on. Seems he does it more when I'm out of the room, so it's like he knows he shouldn't. I seriously can't even go pee lately. THIS is why we do MDO 2 days a week now! |
| Posted by: PrairieMom Aug 18 2011, 02:14 PM | ||
Mother of Monkey boy here.  I have to put the stools on the counter and bungie the table chairs together under the table. Problem solved. |
| Posted by: Maddie&EthansMom Aug 18 2011, 03:10 PM | ||
Oh, Naomi!! It's a good thing he's so darn cute!  |
| Posted by: coasterqueen Aug 18 2011, 04:17 PM |
And...this is why we didn't go for a third. Megan beat it out of me and still does. She is 500% different from her sister and has strung out my nerves beyond repair.  |
| Posted by: mhsteele Aug 19 2011, 09:45 AM |
| I know repetition is irritating, but if you follow the same routine for punishments like taking things away or time outs, they will eventually come around. My 2nd one was way more difficult than the first, but he grew out of it. Whew!! |
| Posted by: Our Lil' Family Aug 22 2011, 12:38 PM | ||||
 Seriously, you bungee corded the chairs??!! LOL....sorry that's funny! We use them at least 3 times a day so that would be a pain in my rear to have to undo those every time. Today is better....I think it's just spurts, days where he wants to make me work for my pay.....uh, yeah....more like work for my WINE! |
| Posted by: AlenaScott Sep 29 2011, 11:14 PM |
| LOL I just loved reading all your experiences.....It is a alwyas a hectic thing to argue with your toddler and make them do what you wish for......Mine is the mixture of all your stories..... |
| Posted by: grapfruit Nov 5 2011, 05:33 PM |
| Do you think it's more they're that much harder or our attention is split and we're tired/frazzled? Liam is starting to be a major monkey boy, but Isabelle was (IS!) so much harder. She is such a brat sometimes. But mega sweet other times. As for going pee, I try and stuck him in the play room and RUN to the bathroom. (they're the furthest away rooms) he thinks it's a game and by the time he figures out where I am I'm done!! |